Originally Posted by KingJulien
I think by looking for women you're like three or four steps ahead of yourself. As people have said, you should probably focus on widening your circle of friends first. You can do this through interests you already have, or get some new ones - overall you'll be a whole lot happier even if it doesn't work out. Buy a camera and get into photography, take a class in something, whatever you're into.
And yeah, making a new circle of friends is a pain in the ass once you're out of college.
And if somebody invites you to a bar to hang out, for fucks sake go. Nobody is going to make you have a drink, just get a coke or whatever.
Originally Posted by Biscotti
Serious question: Do you have friends? Honestly feel that this is so important to have a good network of people before you try getting a relationship or anything like that.... A good network of good people will keep you sane and will giv eyou people to bitch at when shit turns shour.
Find some good unshaven church girl to fuck alot so you learn how to fuck and whatnot, then you can roll into those bars lik a true stud or somethign like that
I am a bit drunk.
Find hobbies that hav communities and shit... my hobbies cycling and motorcyling.... great people. I don't think there are reason to be friends with others without a common bond.
These, so much. You're way, way, way more likely to not only meet women but meet relationship quality women through a social circle.
I typically pregame before going out to the bar so when I get there I'll just drink ice water with a lemon twist. Nobody says shit to me and if they do, fuck them anyhow. If you want, you can order something called a Horses Neck - it's ginger ale with a lemon or orange peel. Looks like booze but it's not.
I just Googled Denver Meet-Up's which are relevant to you.
Pick a couple and RSVP, and GO TO THEM. DO NOT
LET YOURSELF MAKE EXCUSES AS TO WHY YOU CAN'T GO. I've dealt with social anxiety in the past and when people invited me places I'd decide at the last minute that I needed to do this or that; never give in to that urge.
After you've RSVP'ed to a couple of events, learn how to interact with people by going to this site.
Read it, learn it, live it. Obviously you can't just break a conversation into easy steps like the site lays out for you, but you just go with the flow and remember the guidelines and from there it's all about listening to what the person has to say, making observations or anecdotes or sharing a personal story that may be relevant in some way. You're gonna do stupid things and you might think you've made a fool of yourself but people don't care too much so don't feel like they're going to tar and feather you for saying or doing something goofy. You're 26, new to the area, a statistician who works here (insert company name) who went to school here (insert school name). When asked what you do in your free time, you don't have much because being a statistician is a bitch but you like working out and you've been trying to learn to cook -- you've got things to help you establish commonalities with others. I said cooking because you're a homebody right now and you need an excuse as to why you're a hermit, so you're going to take up cooking (you hear me? take up cooking!) and learn a few basic dishes which can be whipped up quickly. You're Indian, can you cook Indian food? If not, learn some dishes. Indian is a great ethnic food to learn. That's one more thing you can add to your bag of conversation tricks. If it's clear that someone is fashion forward or is atleast wearing a piece that's obviously designer, that's about as easy of an ice breaker/conversation starter as you're gonna get with women-- "How's it going? My name is (name), who are you? Nice to meet you (name). I really like (that shirt, those shoes), who made it/them?" The list of conversation starters goes on and on, and once you do it a time or two it becomes second nature.
Hopefully that wasn't too much crap thrown at you at once!