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Originally Posted by
A Canuker 
Because when you are getting your knob polished you think anything that might continue the polishing sounds like an OK deal.
At RedLantern, it would be a good idea to get these things sorted out. No one wants to be the guy on the dating site at 35, not to say this would/could happen but I'd bet that 90% of the married guys here would say it's a worthwhile investment of time learning how to communicate better with the chick your screwing. Shagging has a strange way of messing everything up.
I agree. Overall I think we communicate well - discuss what and why we are feeling when we have disagreements.
The wedding is just an area where our values differ. I realize that part of being married is occasionally having to compromise one's personal values in the interest of preserving the union. Of course if your personal values differ too much, it just might not be a good fit, but in our case the wedding seems to be an exceptional case. Weddings make people crazy.