Originally Posted by VaderDave
I'm a little conflicted about posting this here (instead of the happy thread) but it looks like my wife's youngest sister is getting a divorce. The sad part is that she has a couple of kids who are pretty young (as young as 3 or 4) but the good part is that her husband is kind of an alcoholic narcissist and sociopath. So hopefully she'll be okay and the kids will be okay. It's weird for us because her husband is one of those guys who is always on his best behavior around everyone else so this was a bit unexpected. Now that I've learned the other side of the story, though, it sounds like this will be best for everyone.
I was just a little older than those kids when my parents split up (my brother was right around their age), and this describes my dad to the letter, so I've been there. Your SIL is doing the right thing. It'll be hard for awhile, but everyone will be much better off.
To describe the apparent dissonance in declaring kids better off in a broken home, I often fall back on a line from a Jason Isbell song: "I could say you made me go through life the hard way, but it might have been worse if you were here."
Originally Posted by GreenFrog
Have you ever witnessed displays of alcoholic / narcissistic / sociopathic behavior from this guy?
If you're under the impression that the answer to this question matters, you have very, very little understanding of how these things work.