Originally Posted by indesertum
My friend has stage two breast cancer. Work is giving her 6 months off but looks like she might need a year. So not only does she lose a year of her life she might have to quit her job. We also can't visit her because when chemo starts her immune system is really weak and the doctors don't want her to have outside contact
We hung out for the last time yesterday. I'm really devastated. We told her we'd get through this together I don't know what that actually means. Her family isn't taking it well either. She's now staying with her family and she's going crazy cuz her mother is beginning to be really overbearing about all the fake health type stuff she sees on TV
yeah, her year is going to suck. It's going to suck hard. My mother had stage 3 a number of years ago, and the impact was massive for 20-24 months.
but whatever. Since my mother worked at a hospital, she could keep her job, but she has since left anyways and has found something new and awesome since. It's not a death sentence nor a career death sentence.
I feel like the "no outside visits" is weird, but she will be insanely weak for a very long time. I guess my advice is to just continue to be a friend ... don't be overbearing, don't treat it like death, help out where you need to, but just let her do what needs to be done.
also, her mother sounds like the last thing a cancer patient wants to deal with. so don't be like her.