Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH
Also, why do they have to change their names? Why can't "she" just be Bruce? Doesn't that just support gender stereotypes, which is kind of ironic?
One of my daughter's friends has an older transgendered stepbrother (probably ten years or so older, from the mom's prior marriage). The mom insists on calling the transgendered older kid (who I gather has been living as a man for quite a few years now) by the kid's female birth name rather than the male name he now chooses to live under.
While I generally believe in calling people by whatever name they prefer, I'm not unsympathetic to the mom's attachment to the name she herself bestowed on her child. But it did make things confusing when I was first getting to know the family (the older sibling doesn't live around here), because my daughter and her friend used one name to refer to this person and the mom used another name. And, coincidentally, the female birth name is the same as my daughter's name. So when the mom would refer to her kid _____, my immediate reaction is always to think she's referring to my