A friend offered up their family's mountain house for a group of us to visit this weekend. Very generous, and I was looking forward to the trip. Then someone suggested each couple (four couples, five kids) take care of some of the meals.
Hello clusterfuck. We don't even know which couples will be around for which meals. We know we won't be there for at least a few, and might only be there for one. Another couple has volunteered to make exactly one, relatively small item. Yet another couple, which includes a vegetarian mother and child, has said they'll bring their own vegetarian food but will provide a "couple" meals with no elaboration. Given their complete radio silence aside from that one message, I'm assuming this means they'll be providing nothing for the group despite the fact that the husband will be eating with the rest of us. It looks like my family will be stuck taking care of dinner on the only night everyone will be there, which means we'll be feeding everyone on the trip the biggest meal of the weekend while potentially not eating any of the food provided by anyone else. This leaves us with the option of coming something cheap/low quality for dinner or spending more to feed everyone (despite not reaping any of the benefits of shared meals) than it would cost for my family to just eat out.
When this "sharing cooking" thing was first brought up, I very nearly spoke up and squashed the idea. I wish I had, because this is an idiotic way to do things.