I talked to my buddy who is a long-time HR guy and he gave me some infos to tackle the problem (don't want to get into the whole story for several reasons) and yeah, I am going to make a peace offering. There will still be larger issues to deal with but those are to be dealt with beyond my pay grade and on a different day.
The bigger picture for me and this is something I hate about myself is that I know I have some anger management issues to deal with (which is funny because I'm truth be told a pretty laid back guy [no why/archetypal_yuppie] but I let things fester inside of me that bother me and then they just boil over. This hasn't happened in a long time, maybe me ranting on the internet gets out some of the bad juju, but its something I don't want to continue and it is an active choice in a lot of ways. I also see me getting angrier and angrier on the road, too so I guess I'm saying there's things I need to work on that I don't like... I dunno.