Originally Posted by Teacher
I find destination weddings to be extremely selfish. I was a groomsman in one, when I was a completely broke college student, and was told they'd put us up for the weekend. We found out when we got there they'd changed their minds. We were basically stuck in the armpit of nowhere. The groom was one of my best friends; we've barely spoken since.
The no-gift wedding I mentioned earlier was a similar kind of deal, though not quite as severe as arriving to nowhere to stay. I felt obligated to go because I was in the wedding, but it kept snowballing into a bigger and more expensive hassle:Friend:
"MrG, I'd really like you to be in my wedding."MrG
: "Hell yeah, man. I'd be honored."
"By the way, the wedding is in a place that makes no sense whatsoever for anyone involved."MrG:
"No worries. It will be nice to get away."
"Oh, and despite the fact that most of our friends, including the wedding party, have kids, we're not allowing kids at the wedding."MrG:
"But, like it says on the invitation, licensed childcare will be provided at the venue."MrG:
"So...leaving my infant with a stranger. I guess
it's alright since it's licensed, and we'll be in the same building, since the childcare is at the venue."
"So how do I go about getting childcare lined up for the big day?"Friend:
"Oh, you just call and tell them to come up to your hotel room at the venue."MrG:
"We're not getting a hotel room at the venue. We've booked a nice house nearby to share with other friends are going, since we all like to vacation together, anyway, and it'll be better accommodations for our families at a lot less cost."Friend:
"Well, despite the fact that we didn't make this clear before you RSVPed, you have to stay at the hotel at the venue if you want to use the childcare we told you we'd provide. We just assumed that everyone would stay at the hotel."MrG: