Originally Posted by deadly7
oh my god. Are you a dance dad? Even if you aren't, this sounds all manners of awful. Dance moms are crazy.
I am indeed a Dance Dad. For local stuff, it's not that bad. I get a ridiculous amount of props for showing up regularly and being involved, just because dads who show up regularly are the minority. And at least at the studio where my daughter dances, the moms - while perhaps not who I otherwise would choose to hang out with - are not nearly as bad as the ones on the reality shows. Some of them are actually perfectly nice people.
The out-of-town stuff is more of a drag, especially since my daughter is now old enough that men are (appropriately) excluded from the dressing rooms, so I am hanging around but largely useless because I can't really help with hair/make-up/costumes, etc. But it's still important to her for me to be accessible, so it's not like I can drop her off and then go spend the day reading and maintaining a nice buzz by the pool. It can feel pretty claustrophobic, and the feeling of entire days being completely pissed away drives me nuts. (Of course, they aren't really
being pissed away - they are being spent showing up for my daughter, so big picture there's no more important or productive way to spend them. But small picture immediate-experiencewise, it's a lot of standing around in air-conditioned, flourescent-lit hotel ballrooms or hallways, hovering near electrical outlets so my phone battery doesn't crap out and leave me music-less halfway through the day, thinking about how much work and/or fun stuff I otherwise could be getting done.
)Edited by lawyerdad - 6/20/13 at 3:56pm