Originally Posted by LawrenceMD
I met up with a friend yesterday in Coney Island. I drove all the way down there with the fear that she was going to ask to borrow a substantial amount of money. She's in her early 30's, and a total princess that was financially cut off from her parents too late. When she started her pitch about borrowing money and being able to pay it back in less than a month I just cut her off and left. I feel like shit for doing that and had to deal with my wife later that night (who would've tried to stand strong and not give her money but succumb to the friend's latest sob story of her fault). My wife naturally had a million questions about what was essentially a 10min encounter. Of course she could just call the friend, but she doesn't want to deal with the stress and would rather start annoying the shit out of me going over every detail over and over until we almost started a meltdown fight ourselves.
I hate seeing these friends that were awesome back when we were in our late teens and 20's but are total messes into their 30's...
I have a now former friend that I tried to hire onto my team. Guy is 42 and his career is a fucking train wreck. He was doing great mid-90's and then 2 disasters struck:
One, he was working in telecoms, then they all melted down and he was left scrounging for jobs. He's bounced around since with no career direction.
Second, he met this witch of a girlfriend that ended up forcing him to move away from the area with her on her whims. He sold his property and bought a condo in the new location. Within a year she left him stuck with a condo in a place he didn't really want to live. He's a dumbass for doing this, no excuses.
So I tried to hire him in, provide some career development coaching and opportunities, etc, and $18k more a year to boot.
Son of a bitch lost it during the process (don't ask) and made me look like complete shit too. I know, I know. Dont mix this stuff. Friends make the worst employees But I knew this guy for 25 years and really did want to help. In hindsight I'm glad this happened, I would have had to fire him eventually I'm sure.