Things That Are Bothering You, Got You All Hibbeldy-Jibbeldy, or just downright pissed, RIGHT NOW!



Joffrey said:

To cap off a wonderful past three days (wednesday ripped pants ********** crack region, yesterday car accident and parking ticket), I left my house/car/office keys in my apartment and forgot to check my pockets before shutting the front door that self-locks Going to have to break into my apartment tonight

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Man that is the definition of a shittay week. Hope the weekend is a big improvement.

globetrotter said:

had a conversation with my mom today, took her out for a cup of coffee and we are sitting there talking like adults. so I am thinking how well this is going, and how lucid she is, and then, after about 5 minutes of talking, she asks me a question which shows that she simply didn't get the whole point, or forgot the whole point, of what I was talking to her about. very painful.

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This reminds me of the last conversation I had with my grandmother before Alzheimer's claimed her. I read your post a while back about wanting a quick death sooner rather than later and I couldn't agree more. At some point the person that you knew your whole life is gone and what is left behind is a shell of a human being. It sounds like you're close to that point now and I don't envy your position. I wish you the best of luck.

In all seriousness, does somebody have power of attorney over her? I had an uncle who was making some shady moves and I encouraged my mom to petition for PoA over her mother before he could wreak too much damage.



globetrotter said:

had a conversation with my mom today, took her out for a cup of coffee and we are sitting there talking like adults. so I am thinking how well this is going, and how lucid she is, and then, after about 5 minutes of talking, she asks me a question which shows that she simply didn't get the whole point, or forgot the whole point, of what I was talking to her about. very painful.

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very sad. I wouldn't know what to do if I was in your situation.



Biggskip said:

In all seriousness, does somebody have power of attorney over her? I had an uncle who was making some shady moves and I encouraged my mom to petition for PoA over her mother before he could wreak too much damage.

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I get pissed of that things like that can destroy whole families and cause siblings to turn into blood rivals. My parents are in the process of selling off their properties and you can just see all the cousins rounding like blood thirsty wolves. I recently signed over all my potential shares divided 50/50 to my sister and brother. We are all doing well financially, but I just don't want any of that stress, plus I don't really need it financially.

My wife on the other hand? Even more land and more vicious relatives and 7 siblings to split up their pie. I begged my wife just to let that **** go and sign it over (she makes almost 3x my salary and definitely doesn't need it) but it looks like she's prepared to fight nail and tooth for her birthright.



LawrenceMD said:

I get pissed of that things like that can destroy whole families and cause siblings to turn into blood rivals. My parents are in the process of selling off their properties and you can just see all the cousins rounding like blood thirsty wolves. I recently signed over all my potential shares divided 50/50 to my sister and brother. We are all doing well financially, but I just don't want any of that stress, plus I don't really need it financially.
My wife on the other hand? Even more land and more vicious relatives and 7 siblings to split up their pie. I begged my wife just to let that **** go and sign it over (she makes almost 3x my salary and definitely doesn't need it) but it looks like she's prepared to fight nail and tooth for her birthright.

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Your wife is right...

She is fighting for her share of the pie and there is nothing wrong with that...

Inheritance feuds are not only about money but also jealousy , hatred , envy and so on...

Luckily I am father's favorite so I have the entire fortune coming my way. Who cares about siblings?

My wife and I both tell our parents the exact same thing, "I hope you spend your last dollar on the day you die". Both of our parents have worked hard and saved well for every dollar they've acquired and I want them to enjoy their golden years (which my parents do an exceptional job).

We'll work hard and save our own money.

Even if there were an inheritance, we both have one sibling each and they are both very non-material and fair minded.



LawrenceMD said:

I recently signed over all my potential shares divided 50/50 to my sister and brother.

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Did you get anything in return or was it just a gift?



Rambo said:

Both. Sadly, this is the third time we've gone out. I suppose it was a combination of me HOPING that there would be some improvement (mostly because she was sick the first two times we went out) and that I wanted to go to this restaurant promotion thing before it ended. There was no improvement. She's just an asshole.

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Damn. I've never known a girl who was an asshole. So much for hoping brooo :/



Stazy said:

Did you get anything in return or was it just a gift?

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there was a big sit down about two years ago with our family lawyer and all concerned parties just as my parents were starting to sell off properties. when it was my turn to speak I asked if I could give up my potential share to my brother and sister split 50:50, my parents were actually cool with it, but my brother and sister were actually angry at me at first thinking I was stupid for giving it up.

my reasoning is that I don't want to deal with the property taxes and other legalities in addition to the stress of dealing with siblings and other family when the time comes. a lot of the time (especially with big things like very large plots of land and luxury items like large boats) the taxes/expenses alone can be a huge burden.

my parents paid for my education and helped out a ton when I was newly married. whatever they earned should belong to them.



globetrotter said:

had a conversation with my mom today, took her out for a cup of coffee and we are sitting there talking like adults. so I am thinking how well this is going, and how lucid she is, and then, after about 5 minutes of talking, she asks me a question which shows that she simply didn't get the whole point, or forgot the whole point, of what I was talking to her about. very painful.

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damn, I do not envy you for what lies ahead on that front. My grandmother had dementia for a few years, but it was not as bad as Mrs T's gma's case. That was a hair-raising few years.

LawrenceMD said:

I get pissed of that things like that can destroy whole families and cause siblings to turn into blood rivals. My parents are in the process of selling off their properties and you can just see all the cousins rounding like blood thirsty wolves. I recently signed over all my potential shares divided 50/50 to my sister and brother. We are all doing well financially, but I just don't want any of that stress, plus I don't really need it financially.
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We're talking about doing the same, but the only other heir is my brother and he's not really up to the task of managing the ranch.

lasbar said:

Your wife is right...
She is fighting for her share of the pie and there is nothing wrong with that...
Inheritance feuds are not only about money but also jealousy , hatred , envy and so on...

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My mom's cousins have been in legal battle after legal battle on behalf of their estranged dad who is now trying to contest his divorce to his now-dead ex-wife, in order to claim a share of her family's ranch (different place)

My mother still simmers for being cut out of her prospective share of that family's ranch (third property), that was her parents' generation and even now she gets pissed just talking about it.



Thomas said:

My mom's cousins have been in legal battle after legal battle on behalf of their estranged dad who is now trying to contest his divorce to his now-dead ex-wife, in order to claim a share of her family's ranch (different place)

My mother still simmers for being cut out of her prospective share of that family's ranch (third property), that was her parents' generation and even now she gets pissed just talking about it.

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Is your last name Ewing?



Biggskip said:

Is your last name Ewing?

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hah, nope.

Two of the ranches are in Mexico (and I have absolutely zero interest in even visiting them), one was bought by my great grandfather when he came from Spain, and the other came into the family by marriage. Been in the family for some 100 years or so and just now the great-uncle is talking about drilling for gas, but it's not like he needs the $. I really need to visit them again, but not take my parents along this time.

Jamie says I should take more initiative.

Reading this last page makes me realize how coming from a dirt poor family really kept a lot of stress out of my life.



Piobaire said:

Reading this last page makes me realize how coming from a dirt poor family really kept a lot of stress out of my life.

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lol. Poverty is the only thing that's been in my family for the past 100 years.