Originally Posted by ysc
I didn't see this till I saw it was quoted. From the little I know about you from your general writing on the board we are around the same age/life stage and I suffered a similarly significant breakup after a relationship of over 3 years with a girl I knew was 'the one'. No one I know got cancer, but I found out about that my parents marriage had collapsed at around the same time. I was still hurting at the one year mark, the effect on my life was still pretty toxic. I am most of the way through the second year and it is better, almost completely healed in fact. It will get better for you too.
Thanks man. I appreciate that. It was five years for me, and I had bought a ring three days prior. I have my good days and bad days. Just been on a string of bad days lately, I suppose. Under a ton of pressure at work and I guess it always helped that she was there fo rme when that happened before.
Originally Posted by SField
Been there (not a year for me) and no it doesn't have to be a shit day. Find something about your life you'd like to improve, make a plan and do it. An anniversary is a totally arbitrary thing. There's nothing special about that distinguishes it from yesterday or tomorrow. The less you allow yourself to be burdened by arbitrary measurements of time, the better in my opinion. You're making movements forward in your career and you're a busy man. The right person will come along eventually.
I appreciate this too, and you are right. As much as I imagined today would be a shitty day, four incredible things happened to me. I got asked to be a best man, I had an incredible meal prepared with love by my coworkers and ym staff, my $ limit for this wine list was raised significantly, and I got hit on hardcore by a girl who rejected me two weeks ago. So yeah, things are def. getting better. BTW Thanks to everyone else for the comments re: my mother and my sandy vagina.