Things That Are Bothering You, Got You All Hibbeldy-Jibbeldy, or just downright pissed, RIGHT NOW!



erictheobscure said:

Huh?

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Goddammit my words was clear as a bell get your head in the game!

lawyerdad said:

So tell her that.

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I'll try to break it to her. I'm viewed as an asshole at times but it's hard to tell her things straight up.

GreenFrog said:

How so?

Are you one of those self-absorbed people who can only stand to hear their own voice and eagerly await your turn to speak? Or do you just not give a **** about what people have to say and have sub-par conversations?

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More along the lines of ADHD when it comes to a long conversation. If I'm in to it, I listen. But if it's about work (which I don't enjoy my job), it's hard to pay attention and my thoughts tend to float away to another work project. It takes serious effort for me to listen and benefit from it and I can't multitask while doing so.

I don't believe I'm self absorbed, though I am ill mannered. Not sure if one requires the other. I some times forget to ask people for their input after I talk, or give my input after they talk.

But damn son, you harsh.



mrjester said:

I'll try to break it to her. I'm viewed as an asshole at times but it's hard to tell her things straight up.

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You may well be an asshole. But apparently she digs you anyway, at least somewhat. No accounting for taste and all that. And you're much better off sorting that stuff out now rather than continuing to dig the hole of unvoiced resentment a bit deeper every day.

lawyerdad said:

You may well be an asshole. But apparently she digs you anyway, at least somewhat. No accounting for taste and all that. And you're much better off sorting that stuff out now rather than continuing to dig the hole of unvoiced resentment a bit deeper every day.

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Thanks for the advice. Fortuantely there's no resentment. This may be the only thing that drives me up the wall. I have it pretty good if this is the only one. I think it's more of a case where she settled, than me settling.

I'll work on talking to her about it. Already working on not being an asshole. It's harder than it looks to take the high-road.



GreenFrog said:

It pisses me off that 85% of the people I meet have absolutely atrocious listening / communication skills.

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I know I am guilty of this, but it comes from being deaf (<4% hearing) in one ear. I always try to position myself where I'll have the best shot at hearing, but it is sometimes difficult in noisy environments or with people who don't know I am partially deaf. I'm sure some get annoyed by the fact that I sometimes ask for things to be repeated, especially if they don't know about my partial deafness.

You shouldn't be afraid to tell your GF that one of the things she does daily is incredibly annoying. If it were the other way around I'm sure she'd be prepared to let you know.



SkinnyGoomba said:

You shouldn't be afraid to tell your GF that one of the things she does daily is incredibly annoying. If it were the other way around I'm sure she'd be prepared to let you know.

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this this this this...... this this this

just dont say it like a dick.
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greenie - people take you seriously when your issue is serious one.

Just talk to her after sex, just in case you never get it again



HRoi said:

So I presume that gay men have immeasurably less complex relationships from taking the "women" part out of the equation

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You would think so, but no. And here's the thing: if you talk to a gay dude about his relationship problems, you will find that in every conflict one of them is basically always acting like a woman. Makes me think it's all just something we learn by watching our parents and unconsciously adapt into our lives no matter which direction they go.

This makes me an idiot in more ways than one, but I'm in Bogota on biz for the first time. I had no idea what the climate is here but assumed "South America, closer to Equator, summertime, it's gonna be hot, probably blazing" and didn't bother to check the net for weather either. Who knew Bogota and Medellin would be in the 60s and 70s with lows in the 40s and 50s? I didn't pack for this.

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you should have asked, Douglas. yeah, Bogota can get chilly, although the locals think that it is freezing.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I was just there! And yeah, I had the same experience but I was just flying through. Also, the worst is the altitude in Bogota. I was there for about 12 hours and toward the end, I was getting legitimately paranoid at how little oxygen I was getting. Walking down the hall left me winded.

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I find that the first day is tough, then it gets better. after a day or two I can ride a bike and swim and exercise, but I'm always grumpy in the first day



mrjester said:

Email I just received (sent to everyone)


The NPC building has 13 people working in it. Only two of them smoke, I know this since I've been there a few times. 

What idiot would do that when you're one of two people, out of thirteen, that works in the building?

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Who's the dickhead who sends that email out to eleven people who obviously didn't do it?



globetrotter said:

I'm always grumpy

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GreenFrog said:

kwilk is right.

I've seen so many relationships fail because people suck at communication.

Take my roommate and his GF for example. They have the worst communication skills (mostly on my roommate's end) and I was so calling a fight in my mind.

Well, yesterday was her birthday and they had a massive falling out. She's still at the apartment right now while he's at work. I can hear her sobbing through the doors.

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If you were a good roommate you would be in there giving her the Wand of Comfort.

He was prolly just trying to get out of buying her a birthday present



Piobaire said:

If you were a good roommate you would be in there giving her the Wand of Comfort.

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Oh, trust me, I comforted the **** out of her, 'naw mean?