Originally Posted by Piobaire
I did not say that. WTF is up with people this morning?
Listen, confronting someone that is following you is understandable. However, just because it's understandable, doesn't mean it isn't inherently aggressive. It is and that's why you do it. You want a counterdisplay of your aggression to back the person(s) off. So stop acting like it's not inherently aggressive as it is.
Also, not confronting someone in this type of situation is not necessarily being "a pussy." There could be many reasons I would not turn around and confront people. Off the top of my head the number one reason would be because I'm strapped and I feel it is my duty to retreat at that point.
but it really isn't inherently aggressive because you are merely addressing someone. The aggressive aspect is what you do with it or how you approach it. For instance, if you ask them why they are following you and inquire if there is a problem, that is not aggressive. Conversely, if you approach them angrily and assert for them to stop following you, or you ask in a demeaning and insulting manner, that is aggressive.
Question: is someone asking another person to speak quieter in a library aggressive? Or to be quiet in a movie theatre?
also, if you would not allow them to follow you home, yet you would not bother to address them, what would you do? walk around in circle until they stopped? alter your routine or actions based on their insistence on following you, rather than inquiring as to the provenance of their actions?