Originally Posted by Get Smart
hossoso, thanks for the story! Back when I was in Tokyo staying with that ex for a couple months I had the privilege of meeting her father's associates, eating at their sushi bar which would always have various patrons missing fingers, his father and local friends took me to public bath houses that allowed tattoos (as I was also heavily covered) as that particular time there was a real crackdown on not allowing tattooed guests in, and being invited to one of the hostess bars her father's best friend (a Korean yakuza) owned (which was nice considering there was no way we could afford the $600 cover charge to walk in). Cordiality was definitely something everyone had in common, but I'm sure that was due to my being an "insider" for being an "outsider". The ex (who worked for one of their companies) told me stories of how nice and polite they all are but in the office she worked she'd overhear them yelling over the phone, threatening to cut, burn, maim....all in a day's work.
I know! They were all like Daddy Warbucks buying drinks, dinner...but there was always an underlying sense of unease. I got a good sense of their power from their actions but I felt bad that they had to live with that uncertainty. I was never so ignorant or naive to think that they weren't doing bad things, but I didn't know what and they were always nice to me. My only complaint is that they were extremely sexist and racist(not to me, but I'm sure the conversation was different in my absence). Fortunately, for me, they tolerated me speaking my mind before I knew who they really were. In their defense, they are moving towards more legitimate business ventures and phasing out their more violent practices as is possible.
*I feel bad saying good things about them and I feel bad saying derogatory things about them-these posts have just been my personal experience*