i'm not in the position to teach you. you might know, being ocd about shoes is not the right attitude, though. actually, i have gone through this, trust me. i've babied them and all.
it will happen, when you really don't want it to happen. i give my shoes the best treatment i'm aware of. i let the best people to my knowledge work on them.
after a while, you start to realize that they're telling you stories and you have fond memories. at least, this is it in my case.
not everyone wants to make a master degree on shoes. some people just wear them and the most privileged can step into crap shoes and don't have to worry about the fit.
i assume, we, that we talk about them, love them and care about them... ...and some are at the very beginning of the path to make their own experiences.