***This is a subforum/spinoff from a thread I started here: http://www.styleforum.net/t/275388/help-me-save-up-and-move-out***
"You can't change your parents but you can change the way you deal with them."
-Some random guy
First and foremost I would like to say that I do not hate my parents. I love them and am very grateful for everything they've given me. They honestly have been great parents, made sure I had a great education and always looked out for me while making sure I stayed out of trouble.
That being said, like most people, they have their issues. Not with each other but with their character.
Growing up, people did a lot of nasty things to our family (put nails under our tires, throw eggs at our house, break in and steal things), and I never understood why it only happened to us and no one else on our block. The most recent and startling instance happened a few weeks ago when someone sent a note card with no return address to my father and it read "You are a disgusting piece of trash." This made me sad and I could only imagine what he did to recieve this.
As I've gotten older though I've noticed that my parents are both borderline "bad" people. My mother, to certain degrees, is selfish, inconsiderate, self-centered and sometimes just plain mean. My dad on the other hand is a bit controversial, cynical and thinks very backwards.
After attending college and just growing as a person, I've moved back and discovered the character flaws my parents have. A lot of the times these flaws prevent me from getting to know them better and build a better relationship.
So I ask to all of you who might have had experience with difficult parents: How did you build a stronger relationship with your parents despite them being difficult people to deal with?
I ask this because a lot of you pointed out that a main reason why I shouldn't be so quick to move out of my parent's house is because this time (right after college) is the best time to grow close with your parents. However, they continue to stress me out and irritate me with the way that they are.
Thanks in advance for all of the help and I hope you all had a very Happy Thanksgiving. :)