Originally Posted by Alcibiades
5) All the men wore suspenders, as requested by the bride (so we did the suspender/cummerbund combo - it was my first time doing that, and i now recognize it is the way to go)
Yeah the function of the cummerbund is to hide the transition from shirt to trouser. The function of suspenders is to hold your pants up. So it's not an either/or. It's either suspenders or side-tabs, and either cummerbund or vest (although on this latter "neither" is getting more votes in light of Daniel Craig's "neither" look in "Casino Royale"; I'd say "neither" should be reserved for events where you know your jacket will stay on and buttoned and even then you must
make sure that no shirt shows below the jacket button).
6) At dinner, we all went jacketless for a while before hitting the dance floor (again, mostly jacketless)... This is probably the biggest rule violation, but all the women seemed to like it
The overriding rule is to follow the groom's lead. If his jacket stays on, yours should too. If he loses his, it's your option to remove yours. I don't buy the "suspenders are underwear" meme.
Overall I think we all did a decent job. Even though I prefer them on tuxes, peak lapels seem to be going extinct.
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