It's not even about dress codes but the current 'state of black tie' meaning what men in Eurocentric cultures wear as formalwear and how limited it is. Sure it creates a sense of community so does the burka. At least the burka isn't called fashion/style (or the ones who wear them fashionable/stylish) but a uniform of a specific culture. To spend time money and effort to look exactly like every other man at the event. Then the complete double standards for different genders which is the most revolting.
If you don't like it, don't wear it and don't go to those events. Problem solved. Some of us can enjoy looking good in a tuxedo and not be offended by the fact that the lovely women on our arms can dress in something more colorful. If you're bothered by it, it's on you.