TimelesStyle
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For me the bigger issue is who would want to be the only one (outside of the wedding party) to show up in black tie? Unless of course you were planning to recover the cost of the wedding gift in tips by brining people drinks...
Whether the goal was to set the wedding party apart or not, I'm not sure why it's offensive. Perhaps they just wanted to be emphatic about cocktail attire since they don't want a few people showing up in black tie and then feeling weird about it. After one of my cousin's weddings I started making sure to ask "how optional?" when an invite says "black tie optional". Outside of the wedding party my dad and I were the only ones to show up in tuxedos and we sort of wished we hadn't.
Am I the only one to find that a bit tacky and / or strange ? "We'll be wearing black tie but no one else is ALLOWED to". Don't they realise that a guest would get suited in black tie to show respect and appreciation for the occasion and the efforts of the hosts? Is it just me, or does this smack of insecurity on the part of the hosts? I mean, I wouldn't show up in white tie to a black tie do, but black tie being off limits at a black tie do doesn't seem right.
More about setting the wedding party apart from guests. Similar to bogus thought that the groom has to be different from the rest of the men in the party too, etc.
But it's the bride (and groom's) day, so what they say should go.
For me the bigger issue is who would want to be the only one (outside of the wedding party) to show up in black tie? Unless of course you were planning to recover the cost of the wedding gift in tips by brining people drinks...
Whether the goal was to set the wedding party apart or not, I'm not sure why it's offensive. Perhaps they just wanted to be emphatic about cocktail attire since they don't want a few people showing up in black tie and then feeling weird about it. After one of my cousin's weddings I started making sure to ask "how optional?" when an invite says "black tie optional". Outside of the wedding party my dad and I were the only ones to show up in tuxedos and we sort of wished we hadn't.