Originally Posted by matty long legs
Am I over thinking this? My grandfather's vintage Brooks Brothers satin bowtie doesn't match the grosgrain lapels of my tuxedo. This might be one of those "fuck the rules" moments, but I can't make up my mind.
You aren't over thinking it. In fact, grosgrain lapels do take a grosgrain bow tie.
Having said that, there is a "charming" exception to a lot of black tie rules. If you have a reason to wear an "incorrect" accessory with black tie and that reason could be described as "charming," then go ahead. Wearing your grandfather's bow tie, especially on a special occasion, definitely qualifies, even if it is frayed. I take that back -- especially
if it is frayed.
Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba
The owner of a local shop that specializes in antiques (mostly silver, but he dabbles elsewhere) is a friend of ours. He came to know that I was looking for a set of very unique studs/links and offered them to my fiancee' out of his personal collection, who then gave them to me as a wedding gift.
SG, Congratulations! I did not know you were getting married. What's the date?
I seem to recall that you promised to buy us all tuxedos if you ever married . . .