Originally Posted by poorsod
All of them.
Yeah, that's what I would have thought. I'm not buying this whole thing that people, when in the "correct" circles, would know to wear black tie simply because an event is in the evening. At least, if such circles exist, they are so small as to be useless for instructive purposes here.
Maybe I'm the wrong sort, but I would never wear black tie to an evening wedding without being told to. And I do think it would look incredibly odd if you were the only one outside the wedding party wearing a dinner suit. In fact, I think it would be construed as very rude. For the same reason, I would never wear a flower in my lapel to a wedding unless I was in the party.
Yes, yes, I understand that back in some other time doing either would be the default, but the default has changed.
Originally Posted by BackInTheJox
This essentially describes just about any thread on SF, and doubly so when it comes to this thread.
I think it's a mixed bag. It really depends on who the conversation draws. In many threads, there is a strong reverse-snob-snobbery.
Originally Posted by recondite
I do not think you understand the idea of what constitutes a formal invitation.
I think you're an FNB poster who comes here every now and then to fuck with people. Maybe you should think for a moment about how sad that is.