I feel bad for my dad, all he does is work. He never spent time or got to know me or my brothers, I was never taught by him how to tune up cars, play sports, etc like other kids. Maybe the occasional asswhoopin
He always makes such poor financial decisions, (for example buying a house in Naples, FL right around the time the housing market was peaking) so they are always and forever will be in debt. We never discuss anything outside of money.
My oldest bro is 10 years my senior, so we never bonded much. But currently I'm renting from him and his woman before I go to basic, so we're starting to become friends over a mutual interest of weightlifting and blackjack.
Next oldest brother is long gone.
My older brother by 3 years is completely estranged from family. Growing up he was always sadistic towards me, and he is the most unbalanced fucked up person ever. I blame all my character flaws on subconsciously emulating his behavior. He dropped out of HS, so he attended an ALC with the pregnant bitches and volcano worshipers, barely passed that so he joined army to straighten out his life. Will potentially never speak to him again. Pretty sure he is a cattle rapist.
I don't know if it's a white people thing, or American thing to have a cold family relationship. Latinos and Asians I know are all tight knit with their kin. I don't know how things are in Europe.