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post #91 of 868
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Originally Posted by kwilkinson View Post

Amd $90 on a nice dinner is practically nothing. Im assuming thwy got wine and food and a tip for that.

It is if she doesn't let you spew your goo later. She knew where this was (or wasn't) going. It would have been a cool move on her part if she insisted on going Dutch instead of conning Conne. Conne, pawn the umbrella. Besides - an umbrella? Who does she think she is - Mary Fuckin Poppins?
post #92 of 868
This thread is hilarious.

Amazing how fooled some of you are by women and the whole act of being 'confused' about what they want to do

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post #93 of 868
Conne=Tries to marry every chick he meets
SF=Tries to bang every chick they meet
post #94 of 868
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Originally Posted by CouttsClient View Post

This thread is hilarious.
Amazing how fooled some of you are by women and the whole act of being 'confused' about what they want to do
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Coutts, could you give us a foolproof guide? You're waving bacon around in front of us and we are hungry dogs. Metaphorically.

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post #95 of 868
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Originally Posted by LawrenceMD View Post

U knw who's awesome? the guy who texted. He's getting laid.

Thanks for taking my bird out for a bite. On a full belly and a few drinks she's insatiable. I kinda enjoy being dessert.
post #96 of 868
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Originally Posted by tomgirl View Post

Anyway, there's nothing wrong with a "$90 dinner" spent on someone he's not exclusive with. IMO, it shows class if a guy does that at any stage in the relationship, whether it be courting or serious.
Move on, conne!

Lolol

Enjoy your $90 umbrella, you left with something at least. Perhaps next time go dutch.

Also, major lol points to Eason.
post #97 of 868
I was in this thread early and have not read much since my post.

And I do not want to threadjack.

But, conne, if you want to feel better, Then go out and help some people, preferably anonymously.

Getting laid is no big deal. Helping people anonymously is a thing of beauty and you would be amazed at what it would do for you.

Now, back on point for myself. Porn Girl is back in town and keeps texting me. I just do not have time. But I did something the other day for someone and it would not be anonymous, if I

described it. Take my advice and help others. The poontang will come.
post #98 of 868
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Originally Posted by VelvetGreen View Post

Coutts, could you give us a foolproof guide? You're waving bacon around in front of us and we are hungry dogs. Metaphorically.
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Perhaps I'll start a thread
post #99 of 868
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Originally Posted by CouttsClient View Post

Perhaps I'll start a thread

Will it include bacon?
post #100 of 868
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Originally Posted by Rambo View Post

Will it include bacon?

All good threads do
post #101 of 868
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Originally Posted by CouttsClient View Post

This thread is hilarious.

Amazing how fooled some of you are by women and the whole act of being 'confused' about what they want to do

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Women. Who needs 'em?
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post #102 of 868

OK, with the mix of serious and joking posts, I'm not sure where to go, but I'll take the serious route, and I hate to do this as a new member of the forum, but I'll try to be brutally honest.

 

As a guy with a bit more experience (41) I say forget this woman if you haven't already.  Don't text her, don't return the umbrella (unless she specifically asks for it), and don't answer any texts from her (short of a request for her umbrella).  If she wants her umbrella, arrange to meet to give it to her, don't act hurt, angry, or emotional at all, just give it to her and leave.  Keep any conversation as businesslike as possible and limit it to about 5 minutes or less.  Have a spine, have some self-respect, you deserve better (I'm new here, so I guess I'm just assuming, but damn, even Bernie Madoff deserves better than that witch).

 

Here is the bottom line deal, she was way out of line, and to an unforgivable degree.  Unlike what some posters have said, you aren't in friend territory, she is just taking advantage of you (and don't let it happen).  I have never done to a woman what she did to you, I'm too nice a guy, but I have friends (men and women) who have done exactly that sort of thing to someone.  I can tell you with zero doubt that she has little to no respect for you, and at best you might get one or two nights from her and no more (and probably not even that).

 

I suppose dating more than one person, at least until something is serious and expressly exclusive, is pretty common, especially among older single people.  However, if she has been dating him off and on for a while (am I remembering right that it was over a year), she shouldn't be dating anyone else (not cool to him or you)- the only acceptable thing here is for her to break up with him and date others or to stay with him and only him.  A year is exclusive territory, if not you have someone who is a cheater (could they be serious and you are the "other man"), a user, a liar, a woman who has trouble committing, or any combination thereof. 

 

Now, lets assume they were broken up for a while and only recently got back together so being in dating others territory is acceptable, she was still well out of line.  She was with you.  You took her out, spent money on her, and the two of you were enjoying each others company.  Meanwhile this wasn't a one time hookup, you are just starting to date, apparently with the goal (possibly mutual) of a relationship.  Where in there is it acceptable to kick you out, presumably to sleep with someone else?  I'm assuming at the moment that he knows she is seeing other people and she isn't cheating (see prior paragraph), she should have told him that she can't see him because she is on a date with someone else.  Full stop, nothing more to say, and you should have specifically asked her to text that to him.  If she can't say that then he probably thinks they are exclusive and she is cheating with you (once a cheater, always a cheater, I'd never trust a woman that cheats with me on someone else).  The fact that she asked you to leave is highly disrespectful and outright nasty to you.  There is an exception, a true emergency.  If he was in an accident, needed bail, was in the hospital, etc. then that might be an acceptable reason for you to leave so she could tend to him, but then if that is the case, she could/should have told you so.

 

Kick her to the curb, she doesn't even deserve an explanation.

 

post #103 of 868

Oh, two more quick points:

 

From your posts in this thread, and those of others, I guess you are a "nice guy".  I get it, I am too.  However, there is the nice guy who lets women walk over him, who takes other people's girlfriends out for dinner to let him get the benefits, who is always there as a shoulder to cry on, who people seek out when they need something, etc. and is always seen as too soft and not boyfriend material by the women he meets.  Then, there is the nice guy who treats the women he dates (and everyone really) with respect, who is a straight shooter, who people may seek out for advice and emotional support, who means what he says and again, just treats people right, but who has a spine, will stand up for what is right (for him and others), who is pleasant and friendly, and who is generally a good person and someone people like to be around.  The first will be a doormat for women with low self esteem, will be used by those with poor ethics and morals, and just seen as a friend by decent women.  He also likely doesn't display a lot of self-confidence (and self-confidence is probably most attractive trait for 99.9% of women).  The second is probably better termed a good man than a "nice guy," probably has a healthy amount of self-confidence, and will be more attractive to women to date, and both women and men for friendship.  Again, confidence is the key, if you don't have it, pretend (for now) and as time goes by and you see results it will start to come naturally.  The differences between the two may be subtle, the difference in results, however, is drastic.  Take your inclinations and steer them into being the second man, not the first.

 

 

As for the "debate" about $90 on dinner...If we are talking $90 a plate, that is a bit much for a first "real" date.  I wouldn't spend that much on dinner until it was pretty serious.  If it was $90 total, that isn't bad at all.  You don't need to go to an overly expensive restaurant for a first date.  At worst, that could scare some women (seems too serious too early) or signal that she can take advantage of you, and at best it is unnecessary.  You do need to go someplace nice, but in most metro areas you can get pretty nice at about the $40-60 range for each of you (I never pay more than $150 for the two of us on a first date, and I'm rarely over $100-120). 

post #104 of 868
Jeff, buddy, you need to do some research. See member InStitches for more information.
post #105 of 868
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Originally Posted by Rambo View Post

Jeff, buddy, you need to do some research. See member InStitches for more information.


I hadn't read through his nearly 35K posts (wow 35K wow.gif ).  So, after seeing your response, I decided to go through a few pages of them.  So I guess the question is, is this a guy who is a joker and these are just fishing/entertainment/trolling posts, or is he a guy who just keeps making the same mistakes over and over again?

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