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Ok, so on 9/17/11, I went to a good friend's wedding. I gave money in the form of a personal check. However, in my haste or error, I made the check out to: "Good friend's full maiden name" and husband's name.

My understanding was they could both endorse it, and then just endorse it to one or the other.

However, now, almost a month later, the check has not been deposited. They aren't going on a honeymoon until december, so its not that they are away.

The amount isn't going to matter if they cash it whenever they want, but I want to make sure I didn't hose them by the way I made the check out.

So, should I wait a few more weeks and then send an email asking if everything is ok with the check, should I just let it slide and wait to see if they deposit it, or something else? I don't want to be the scumbag that gave them a check they couldn't deposit.

What would you do?

Thanks.
post #2 of 6
Leave it be. At this point, if you call them up and make a big fuss about it, it will only highlight your ineptitude. If there is a problem with the check, wait for them to bring it up. smh
post #3 of 6
Yep, newly marrieds tend to be very busy even after the wedding. In my experience, one month is not an unusually long period of time to go without cashing a check. If they have a problem, they will notify you.
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Originally Posted by Quadcammer View Post

Ok, so on 9/17/11, I went to a good friend's wedding. I gave money in the form of a personal check. However, in my haste or error, I made the check out to: "Good friend's full maiden name" and husband's name.
My understanding was they could both endorse it, and then just endorse it to one or the other.
However, now, almost a month later, the check has not been deposited. They aren't going on a honeymoon until december, so its not that they are away.
The amount isn't going to matter if they cash it whenever they want, but I want to make sure I didn't hose them by the way I made the check out.
So, should I wait a few more weeks and then send an email asking if everything is ok with the check, should I just let it slide and wait to see if they deposit it, or something else? I don't want to be the scumbag that gave them a check they couldn't deposit.
What would you do?
Thanks.

Call your friend. If she's such a good friend I don't see what would be awkward. Tell her you saw she hadn't cashed the check and wanted to know whether how you wrote it out was a problem. If so you can drop off or send a new check in a more convenient way. Then call your bank and cancel the original check.

Potential Outcomes: 1. The original check was fine but they never got around to depositing it and your phone call was a polite reminder.

2. You are a dingleberry that over thought the check writing process - I don't understand what you wrote above about them both endorsing and then endorsing it to each other confused.gif, anyway, b/c they were so confused they didn't want to call you to ask what the fuck you were doing so let it sit in a drawer or threw it away since it apparently was a insignificant amount . Thankfully, however, your offer to give them a normal check would save them some grief.
post #5 of 6
We had quite a few checks that were endorsed in some strange fashion. My wife didn't immediately change her name, so all the checks with Mrs MyLastName or Mrs MaidenName hyphen MyLastName were sort of interesting to deposit. We ended up going to the bank with our marriage license, explaining the situation, and depositing everything. Wasn't really a problem, but it took a couple weeks. I really wouldn't be too concerned about the delay.

We still get checks (from parents mostly) with name combinations that are a pain to cash. Serves my wife right for taking two years to change her name I guess.

You could certainly call your friend to catch up since the wedding, then ask "Hey I realized I was a dumbass and endorsed the check in a weird way. Can you guys cash that or what?"
post #6 of 6
I actually forgot that people can still write checks/cheques. TBH I can't remember the last time I wrote a cheque, must have been quite a few years ago. I know many establishments in the UK stopped taking cheques as a method of payment a while back. Cash or credit/debit card only.
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