Have you ever had an occasion where SF mentality/attitude/uniform etc. been a detriment for you?

Back during my first month or so on the forum, I created and posted this in the CBD thread.



Based on the complete lack of reaction from everyone on the thread at the time, I believe I made it onto about 20 or so Ignore lists within an hour of posting it. My ego is still somewhat bruised.

But enough about me. Got pics of your lost hottie?

I told someone recently that my watch told time in London, Paris, Rome and Gstaad. He offered me $50.

I'll never forget I was told by a beautiful girl at a bar that she was happy she took a chance to talk to me because I looked so "unapproachable." At the time was wearing tortoise shells, SC (with PS), button-front, raw denim and tassels (a look I would consider rather casual/after-work-drinks friendly). She dressing so well made me intimidating. She also said her guy friends told her I had to be gay .

I was able to seal that deal but it was a bit disconcerting how many opportunities I might have missed out on because of being over-dressed in a lot (if not most) occasions. I suppose it might be a symptom of being younger, however, so hopefully more women will appreciate the effort as I get older.

Never. I carefully vet my venues.

That sounds almost as bad as been a boring sneakerhead. One might have well have talked about one's trainspotting(collecting locomotive numbers) hobby to her.

She gave you a compliment and you corrected her.

Never, I'm not that much of a clothing geek(yet) to let it happen. Although where I am, I can wear pretty much anything and they nearly always think it's cool.
Edited by MikeDT - 9/21/11 at 10:01pm

I work tech which is notoriously casual so I get grief all the time at work for wearing suits and sport coats.

never had the situation happen but its probably because i dont dress the way id like to. mostly because i feel ill encounter something similar. Ive been able to pull off many styles but when it comes to dressing up for a formal or semi formal event, i feel uncomfortable. ive been complimented on the way i dress when i do. but some of my friends like to tease me and ask me if im working at the stock exchange, i just feel clueless when it comes to fashion or staying up to date on it. but thats why im on hear. I think its an attitude thing more than anything. if your going to wear it OWN the look..

At work , people are always telling me the same thing..

You're always so smart.....

In Folkestone ,being smart is wearing chino and a shirt....

If you dare wearing a sc or a suit , you are over-dressed..

Good story. Doesn't sound like a sartorial problem, though. Sounds to me like you have trouble turning off your inner teacher. I can relate. I used to correct people's grammar in casual conversation. D'oh!

It's interesting the comments re: being unapproachable and looking arrogant.

A few girls at work actually said once that out of two identically attractive guys - they would prefer the one who is well dressed but would only approach the one who was dressed down...

Take from that what you will. I suppose your demeanour should determine whether you are approachable or not - rather than your sartorial choices...

See? Same thing in this thread as well. Of course, when I posted it in "CBD an Experiment", I was unaware that Manton actually HAD written a book on the subject.

When a man dresses well he suddenly brings out the inferiority complexes bubbling just below the surface of certain women. They have enough on their plates competing with other girls. Once you up your game, things get desperate.

Then again, if you look the part, you have to play it. Otherwise you're a dweeb.

SF mentality is for SF.

Great!

 

I've been getting the: "I assumed you were an asshole and thought you looked as if you think you're better than everyone else, but really you're a pretty nice guy" line for a long time.  Now that I'm improving my attire, what will i be made to endure?

 

To be fair to the teaming masses though, i do think I'm better than most people I encounter for a whole host of reasons, so I suppose I'm giving off a not too inaccurate vibe.