I love this. Of course part of the love comes from the fact that I am too chicken shit to ever do that; well, the refusing verbally to take of my shoes part, I could never do the beating.
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I don't know anyone who wears shoes around the house, so I'm not sure how some things would work.
1) When your alarm goes off in the morning, do you reach for your shoe horn?
2) Do you hang a shoe horn in the bathroom just so you can put on shoes straight out of the shower?
3) Would your shoes not go with your dressing gown or sleepwear? Do you wear slippers then? If so, why not wear slippers throughout the house?
4) Do you buy AEs as house beaters?
I'm only half serious.
Because you can do both slippers and shoes? I'm not sure what half is serious here.
I don't have any rules concerning footwear at home, except for no footwear in the bathroom(water+dirt) and take them off when they are really dirty. Other than that feel free to kick off your shoes(or not) whenever. Then again I'm not really a carpet person.
This is a Midwestern and Middle Eastern tradition. Taking shoes off when entering a home in the Midwest is a sign of respect. I have new hardwood floors, I do not want them scratched. I have a huge mat to throw shoes and boots on.
I grew up with this rule and do not find it weird at all.
I live in the midwest and almost every house I have been to/visited has a rule of shoes off at the door. I had no idea this was not universal
It seems like older people follow this more strictly than younger people in my experience.
Put it this way...... after the guest goes home the host has lot of plates and glass and food to clear and clean. If the carpet also dirty that’s put much more work on hosts.
****I hate handy man/ repair people they come to your house with dirty muddy boots and just jump on your house before you could even ask them to take off their shoes. In Australia repair people they refuse to take off their dirty shoes for the sake of their safety. And believe me their big boots dirty as funk and I think they step on dog poo before they enter your house. ****
I grew up in a no-shoes-in-the-house environment...............I'm SO glad I did.
And for those who keep splitting hairs about whether the house gets dirty from wearing shoes - the answer is YES.
I am usually in socks or loafers while indoors.
I bet most of the people that find taking off their shoes strange are coming from warmer areas.
In a place with real winter you aren't worried about the germs. You're worried about the slush and road salt. If you're boots are warm you want to take them off to avoid sweating like a pig. If they're cold you want to take them off to warm up your feet. You take off your overcoat when entering a house? It's not different. Unless you're wearing overshoes you take off your shoes.
You put clothes on in your own home? Talking about wierd.
Some of the things I walk through...
...most houses here don't have carpet. However the prevailing custom is to remove shoes and boots upon entering a house.
No, what's weird is taking a pile of clothes into the bathroom, taking bedclothes (if any) off and showering, drying, putting on the clothes whilst in the bathroom, traipsing back to the bedroom with the pile of bedclothes in hand. What a palaver. I sleep naked anyway.
On the shoes-off thing, I'm happy to accept people of other cultures or nationalities doing it, but when someone of my culture and geography does it, it's almost inevitably turns out that they're bland, parochial fucks who you wouldn't want to spend time with anyway. I spit on their Kinkades.
Also, when someone "asks" you to take your shoes off, it's not a question, even if it's phrased as one. Especially if phrased in holier-than-thou language implying that they're better than you ("In /this/ house, we take our shoes off!"). It fucks up the guest-host relationship within five seconds of getting through the door. Nice.
I don't tell guests what to do in my house. If they treat it like shit, they don't come back. Unless they're funny or otherwise good value, in which case anything goes. The idea of explaining "house rules" to a guest is perhaps one of the tackiest things ever.
I generally hate people who are so afraid of ruining things that they can't bear to use them. People who make you afraid to walk around in a house qualify as assholes, IMO. It's supposed to be a place to live in. If you can't relax there, what's the fucking point?
I'll remove shoes if you ask me to, but unless you're from an asian culture, I consider it a bit of a rude request. The way I was raised, you make an effort for guests- which means cleaning up, even if not to an absurd degree, and understanding that the house will need to be cleaned after any party. Expecting your home to stay pristine all of the time is moronic, and enforcing that on others is rude.
Cleaning is a fact of life. Germs aren't as horrible as you think they are. Come to terms with those, and your life will be much less stressful, and your guests will like you more.
This, almost to the letter.
Allthough, I always do it when asked. And might even offer when I see people walking around bare/sockfooted. Often this is declined. The idea though that my shoes are dirtier than my (our your) sweaty feet is a bit laughable to me.
Edited by CDFS - 8/26/11 at 3:46am