This is the most mature forum I lurk in, so I'd like to hear your thoughts/experiences..
Background: I'm 30 and I just recently got a case of HPV that has the pleasant side effect of genital warts. Its only like 4-5 little flesh/white circles primarly on my scrotum and base of the penis that I'm going to get froze off at the Dr. tomorrow.
Virus: Not to trivialize it but it doesnt sound bad - there are over 100 strands of HPV, 80% of the population gets it at some point- most guys never even know since there are no symptoms, no test, can lay dormant for years but the body clears it out in 90% of the cases within 2 years anyways. CAN cause cancer in girls but its so rare with screening its not really worth worrying about - 7 out of 100k chance.
Just the fact I got one of the strands that leaves a visible sign is upsetting; 10+ years of ignorance was bliss!!!
Problem 1: I just started dating this girl for a few weeks - 5 or 6 dates but no sex yet. Usually I'm a 3-4 date rule guy, but Im purposely dragging this out. Our relationship isnt that strong, but I definetly have to man up and tell her if the warts are still there and we're gonna have sex, but when do I drop this bomb, and how???
- Do it now when our relationship isnt that strong and she might cut her losses and not waste her time - but ultimately be bettter in the end if she was gonna do that anyways so it saves me time
- Tell her when we're closer to having sex (probably 2-5 more dates) when the relationship is a little stronger. If she rejects me then I lose all that time and effort dating someone for nothing.
Problem 2: I was planning on calling my ex (still good terms, may date again) tomorrow and tell her. Anyone have experience with this awesome conversation?
The anxiety I'm getting about bringing up this topic is not good... Im screwed either way I think.