Originally Posted by Popsandfriends
Sorry for the lack of an update!
I never did it
What a load of crap..for the longest time I have been afraid of things that are so easy to the rest of world but get my heart beating faster and faster until I cannot bear it anymore. Any time I feel there is something thats big, and has a lot riding on it, I worry about it. I put to much thought into it...sometimes days in advance! Right before it takes place my heart races, I try to say "calm down, its goingto be ok" but it doesnt help. Ive tried a number of relaxation techniques, massaging techniques, any on-the-fly method that will bring my heart rate down to a normal level so I can go thru with whatever I need to do. This is something I NEED to do....
Obviously, sumoning up courage to do it and just "doing it" hasnt worked and im guessing will not work unless I find a better technique...but what? I used to be able to speak to myself and calm myself down, but that no longer works. If I go up to her in my present condition and get introduced to her...I will look very nervous, unsure about myself, etc etc.....that ruins the first impression.
What to do?
Guys your age often come across nervous and unsure of yourself when approaching/talking to girls. They're used to it, and some even find it endearing. No worries.
Screwing up the first impression is worlds better than never creating one at all. One way, there's a chance she'll like you. The other way there's zero chance because she won't get the opporunity. You do the math.