Today is the first year anniversary of my quit, so I guess I could be of help.First,
OP, if you really want to quit you have to prepare for it. That means having an action plan (what/ how/ by when etc) - doesn't matter what it is, just having one is important. You are essentially stating your intent to yourselves, overtly or subliminally.Second
, In my experience no one method helps for most people. Try and choose a combination. Some people use Chantix + joining a forum + reading a quit smoking book. Looking back, what I dd was to switch to smokeless/ electronic cigarettes (one week) + some hypnotherapy + read a book (more about this later) + signed up on a forum online for group interaction/ support.Third
, a corollary of the second, using just sheer willpower is - for most people - all balls. Most people need a combination of things to help them through. Reading, plans, medicine, books, support group etc.Fourth,
read, read, read up on the online literature on how to give up smoking, whom to ask for help etc. You may use 10% of the advice, but it keeps you 'in play'. There is a lot of literature out there; do not forget to read the website of a anti-smoking guru based in Evanston, Illinois (look him up) who did amazing work back in the day. He seems to be retired now but his free program is online.
Plus reading. watching the horror stories on mouth cancer, emphysema (especially every time you feel the urge to smoke) is a very powerful device.Fifth
, two things that helped me tremendously were (a) Allan Carr's The Easy Way t o Stop Smoking book. I detest self help books, but this one, well I owe a debt of gratitude is all I will say, and (b) Signing up to this forumhttp://forums.about.com/n/pfx/forum.aspx?webtag=ab-quitsmoking
It was and remains good way to keep in touch with people who are also quitting and the support is great (although a little on the 'let's all be nice to each other' side)Sixth
Do not berate yourselves, or give up, if you fail. For some people the trick lies in trying it again and again, and then gaining enough traction for the final and permanent quit.
Tactically, there's a lot of literature you will find when you go to the online resources I indicated.
Remember the first week is the worst, followed by a declining intensity through to week 4. After that, for most people, the desire to smoke declines exponentially. The urge comes back every now and then, and sometimes it is quite powerful, but what has change hugely is your capacity to resist.