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Waiter asks if you're done eating when there's still food on your plate, you're still holding the utensils, and you're chewing food at the moment. After noticing all of the above, he just stands there and waits for your response. Do you:

(a) Respond with your mouth full of food.
(b) Finish chewing, prolong the awkward moment, and say no.
(c) Gesture at the food still on your plate and in your mouth.
(d) Ignore him until he goes away.
(e) Do something else.

And in any event, how much would you reduce his tip, if at all?

I tend to ignore the foolishness and hope they'll get the hint.

Tip would go from 20% to 15%
post #17 of 481
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post

Someone's out of control brat runs up to your table, grabs the edge of it, and goes to touch something on your table. The correct response is?

You try to be as accommodating as possible with kids. First time, talk to them nicely and ask them not to. Next, go to the parents. Know that they might freak because people are so damn touchy about their kids. If they do, talk to the manager. Even if a kid is acting badly, you don't want to snap at them, and coming down hard on their parents might feel good, but it won't get you the results you want, and you will spend the rest of the evening at your table fuming.
post #18 of 481
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Originally Posted by iammatt View Post

Well, unless the guy had no shoes on and toe cheese, you were out of line.

Def, wtf.
post #19 of 481
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post


I would casually finish chewing (b), but when finished with my mouthful, ask him if it would appear to him/her that I look finished? If the fact I was actively eating gives off the impression I'm finished eating? I have done this before and been told he was just checking as he wanted to turn the table. The tip was exactly $0.00.

Yikes.

My mother has a habit of leaving actual notes when she has a particularly memorable dining experience. Sometimes glowing praise. Sometimes...not
post #20 of 481
A couple we like to spend time with always manuevers to pick the restaurant. This occurs even when they ask us to choose a place. After we make reservations at a restaurant that fits their preferences for location, cuisine, and price, they will often contact us just a few hours before dinner to say they aren't comfortable with the menu because of certain religious dietary limitations. Needless to say, these limitations never appear to be the real issue. To add insult to injury, they are more interested in the scene than the food, so we always feel like we overspent at a mediocre restaurant.

What would you do?
post #21 of 481
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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post

A couple we like to spend time with always manuevers to pick the restaurant. This occurs even when they ask us to choose a place. After we make reservations at a restaurant that fits their preferences for location, cuisine, and price, they will often contact us just a few hours before dinner to say they aren't comfortable with the menu because of certain religious dietary limitations. Needless to say, these limitations never appear to be the real issue. To add insult to injury, they are more interested in the scene than the food, so we always feel like we overspent at a mediocre restaurant.

What would you do?

Tell Mr. Nay to stop being a little bitch, and inform him that being a hick carries no real dietary restrictions.
post #22 of 481
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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post

A couple we like to spend time with always manuevers to pick the restaurant. This occurs even when they ask us to choose a place. After we make reservations at a restaurant that fits their preferences for location, cuisine, and price, they will often contact us just a few hours before dinner to say they aren't comfortable with the menu because of certain religious dietary limitations. Needless to say, these limitations never appear to be the real issue. To add insult to injury, they are more interested in the scene than the food, so we always feel like we overspent at a mediocre restaurant.

What would you do?

Stop giving in to them and go where you want to go. If they can't be bothered to actually let you pick the location then stop going to eat with them.

Is that so difficult?
post #23 of 481
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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post

Waiter asks if you're done eating when there's still food on your plate, you're still holding the utensils, and you're chewing food at the moment. After noticing all of the above, he just stands there and waits for your response. Do you:

(a) Respond with your mouth full of food.
(b) Finish chewing, prolong the awkward moment, and say no.
(c) Gesture at the food still on your plate and in your mouth.
(d) Ignore him until he goes away.
(e) Do something else.

And in any event, how much would you reduce his tip, if at all?

I can't stand whenever waiters or waitresses ask me questions when my mouth is full. I don't take away from their tip, but I do finish chewing and swallowing and before answering hoping they get the point. I love these awkward moments.
post #24 of 481
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Originally Posted by iammatt View Post


You try to be as accommodating as possible with kids. First time, talk to them nicely and ask them not to. Next, go to the parents. Know that they might freak because people are so damn touchy about their kids. If they do, talk to the manager. Even if a kid is acting badly, you don't want to snap at them, and coming down hard on their parents might feel good, but it won't get you the results you want, and you will spend the rest of the evening at your table fuming.

I sort of do this. It's happened a few times and I tell the child it is impolite to touch things on a someone else's table and they should go re-join their parents. A couple of times the kid gave the "fuck you, I'm doing it anyway" grin and I told them, "I'm not your parent. I mean what I said. Do not touch things here and leave now." That seems to always get their attention, when you draw a distinction between yourself and the parents. I think they feel all adults will indulge the special flower and being told not leaves an impression. The one or two times this did not work I skipped the parents and just had the manager sent over. I don't think paying customers need to be the hall monitor.
post #25 of 481
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Originally Posted by iammatt View Post

Well, unless the guy had no shoes on and toe cheese, you were out of line.

+1
post #26 of 481
I also have little patience for little kids. I won't curse at them, but if their parents aren't at an ears distance away I will just point and say go sit with your parents then ignore them and keep eating as if they aren't there.

I remember my mother yelled at some kid's parents because the parents were at one table and the kids were at their own "kid's table". They opened up the salt and pepper shakers and were spitting their soda into them. The parents looked horribly offended as if it is totally justified becaue they are little.
post #27 of 481
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

I remember my mother yelled at some kid's parents because the parents were at one table and the kids were at their own "kid's table". They opened up the salt and pepper shakers and were spitting their soda into them. The parents looked horribly offended as if it is totally justified becaue they are little.

This is why I don't use salt and pepper shakers at restaurants.
post #28 of 481
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Originally Posted by iammatt View Post


Tell Mr. Nay to stop being a little bitch, and inform him that being a hick carries no real dietary restrictions.

He told me eating red bean is like watching baby Jesus burn alive.
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Originally Posted by CouttsClient View Post


Stop giving in to them and go where you want to go. If they can't be bothered to actually let you pick the location then stop going to eat with them.

Is that so difficult?

Yes. Not so simple when you are talking about old friend who you are very close with. I'd rather continue eating where they'd like than stop seeing them.
post #29 of 481
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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post


Yes. Not so simple when you are talking about old friend who you are very close with. I'd rather continue eating where they'd like than stop seeing them.

Well then they have you by the balls.

I wonder if they feel the same way about seeing you

I don't know what it's like to be friends with someone who can't deal with me telling them I'm not eating at some shitty restaurant
post #30 of 481
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

I also have little patience for little kids. I won't curse at them, but if their parents aren't at an ears distance away I will just point and say go sit with your parents then ignore them and keep eating as if they aren't there.

I remember my mother yelled at some kid's parents because the parents were at one table and the kids were at their own "kid's table". They opened up the salt and pepper shakers and were spitting their soda into them. The parents looked horribly offended as if it is totally justified becaue they are little.

For me the upshot of all these anecdotes and hence recommendations depend greatly on the age of the "little kids" in question and the exact situation. I often find it distasteful how infuriated some adults become at the antics of very small children who clearly are not culpable and whose parents are clearly doing their best to maintain order in an uncomfortable situation. On the other hand, there is no question that there are parents who believe their unruly 7-year-olds can do no wrong, even if they're shooting spit-balls into your soup.

I would say use your discretion, but generally assume children don't know any better, and the parents are far more upset at whatever it is they're doing than you are.
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