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post #106 of 481
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Originally Posted by Nil View Post


People who put others in those positions are kind of dicks but sometimes you need to take one for the team. In a just world, one of them should at least offer to buy you a drink later.

+1
post #107 of 481
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Originally Posted by lefty View Post

^^ Interesting.  I'm talking about a few minutes here. So you're saying leave the knife and fork at rest as if I was still eating until the last person finishes then we all move our cutlery to signal to the waiter that it's cool to take the plates away.


that's the way, it should be done in a none colloquial situation. at least in europe.
post #108 of 481
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Originally Posted by Louis XIV View Post

I am confused about keeping the cutlery off the off position till my companions are finished as well.
So I am highly interested in your explanation why I should do it this way rather than putting them to off position and wait for the waiter to take away plates when everyone is finished.

it's the tradition in good old europe.
post #109 of 481
Ok, here's one.
You go to a little family-run upscale restaurant. The waiter comes over and tells you about the specials. You are interested in getting one of the appetizers, so you inquire about the price. The waiter quotes you some outrageously high number. Then he laughs and says, just kidding. In other instances, he also acts in a patronizing manner, doesn't give straight answers, and thinks himself some kind of comedian.
After trying to assess whether your date would back you in court if you stuck your knife into the waiter's thigh, you decide against stabbing the guy, but dinner is ruined.

What can be done to rescue the situation?
post #110 of 481
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Originally Posted by lefty View Post

^^ Interesting.  I'm talking about a few minutes here. So you're saying leave the knife and fork at rest as if I was still eating until the last person finishes then we all move our cutlery to signal to the waiter that it's cool to take the plates away.  Do we go in reverse order of finishing or act simultaneously?  Tines up or down?

 

Can someone cite a reference?

 

lefty 


I started to do that so as to try to avoid the whole "waiter taking the plate before everyone else is done" issue.
My wife eats so damn slowly. She doesn't really care if the server takes my plate while she's still eating nor do I.
But her mother eats even slower and she'd be sure to make a comment and get stressed out if the server had taken our plates and she's the only one still eating.
post #111 of 481
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Edited by Louis XIV - 10/13/11 at 1:09am
post #112 of 481
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Originally Posted by fritzl View Post



it's the tradition in good old europe.
 


Europe is bigger than you think.

 

post #113 of 481
Valets: I tip on the way in and I tend to overtip. I will point directly at the spot I want, hand him a $20, and say, "Park me right there." Now, I mentioned my method once before and some folks said the car would be moved as soon as I went in. This has never happened to me. Ever. I'm not sure where you guys are going that your car goes from the VIP spots to door-ding land. I've had my car remain out front of a Ritz Carlton for three days in one of the six VIP spots like this.

Getting comped or partially comped: always tip based on what the bill would have been full up or more. If I am at one of my spots I will tip $50 on a $150 bar bill for myself as I probably was given $250 worth of food and drink. It's also smart behaviour as it encourages further comps on the next visit. If you're out at a spot you frequent and there's a 50% off bottle night, or second bottle half off, etc. always tip on the full cost.
post #114 of 481
I pretty much agree with that all around. Same experiences with valets as well.
post #115 of 481
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Originally Posted by freedom_fries View Post


Servers in Europe do not view tips as an insult. One doesn't tip as much as in the US, of course, but if you don't tip at all you will look like an ass.

You don't tip on small things but on a big meal you roundup a few €. Nothing crazy. So let's say the meal was €72 you give €78-80.
post #116 of 481
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Originally Posted by fritzl View Post


it's the tradition in good old europe.

Honestly I thought it was the tradition everywhere but maybe I just don't know better.
post #117 of 481
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Edited by Louis XIV - 10/12/11 at 11:26pm
post #118 of 481
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Originally Posted by Louis XIV View Post

Once again, is there a story behind this tradition?
Seems very odd to leave the cutlery in a "ready to be used" position rather than putting them in "off" position after you have cleaned your plate.

It's easier to stab any potential photo takers...

Honestly I may have been educamated by Barbarians or it may be regional factors but this is how we do it.

when you're just putting your ustencils down its point down and crossing and when youre finished its up and stuff and it means "take this shit away my dude"

Of course keep in mind that everyone is supposed to finish around the same time, dining with people means timing yourself and interractions so this happens, the fork thing doesnt matter as how you condcut the meal.
post #119 of 481
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Originally Posted by Nil View Post


Rebecca sounds like uptight and probably difficult to deal with on a regular basis, but you also come off like a sissy complaining about a few attached photos in an email.

She's just profoundly stupid and has a weird mom complex despite being the most immature coworker I've ever had. I am more prissy than sissy.
post #120 of 481
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Originally Posted by Redwoood View Post

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What can be done to rescue the situation?
Nothing.
If you realize early enough on in the experience that this guys sucks just leave. If you realize it too late leave a poor tip and if it is really bad leave a note/talk to the manager.
Most importantly, just keep that shit in perspective, don't eat there again, make a few jokes with your date about it and move on.
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