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post #1 of 409
8/1/11 at 9:40pm
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Title sounds snarky, but the tipping thread actually has some very good questions and responses, so go. No shame, don't feel bad.
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post #2 of 409
8/1/11 at 9:45pm
This is sad

Oooops...didn't read your first post.

Go on guys. Don't feel bad

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post #3 of 409
8/1/11 at 10:39pm

I have one.  Happened this weekend.

 

At a restaurant in a resort town, so casual, but the restaurant is a little higher end.   Older people are dressed in Brooks; younger in casual sportswear.  We're on the back patio.  60ish guy beside us finishes his meal then stretches out his legs and puts his feet on the empty chair at his table.  Directly in front of my wife.  I give it a few minutes just to see if he's trying to work out a charley horse or perhaps is afflicted with gout, but it looks like he's just settling back to digest and enjoy his coffee.  I say, "Excuse me, could I ask you to remove your shoes from that chair."  He looks startled, then pissed but complies.  His companion grumbles, "What's the big deal?"  I say, "Do you really need me to explain this?"

 

They pay and leave.  The waitress later confesses that she couldn't say anything or risk losing her job.  The hostess is pissed that I scared off her regulars.

 

Discuss.

 

lefty

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post #4 of 409
8/1/11 at 10:50pm

How much tip is appropriate if a service charge of 12.5-15% is mandatory and already included in the bill ? I dont leave more than 5%. Is it wrong ? For context, I am in India and tipping culture is not as strong as in the US 

 

Basically its like 

 

Dish 1 - 200 

Drink 1 - 150

 

Tax on Food - 15% of 200 - 30

Tax on Drink - 20% of 150 - 30

 

Service Charge - 12.5% of Food plus drink - 43.75

 

Total - 453.75

 

I give - 475

 

Is it too less ?

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post #5 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:11am
Someone's out of control brat runs up to your table, grabs the edge of it, and goes to touch something on your table. The correct response is?
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post #6 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:26am
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Originally Posted by aj_del View Post

How much tip is appropriate if a service charge of 12.5-15% is mandatory and already included in the bill ? I dont leave more than 5%. Is it wrong ? For context, I am in India and tipping culture is not as strong as in the US 

 

Basically its like 

 

Dish 1 - 200 

Drink 1 - 150

 

Tax on Food - 15% of 200 - 30

Tax on Drink - 20% of 150 - 30

 

Service Charge - 12.5% of Food plus drink - 43.75

 

Total - 453.75

 

I give - 475

 

Is it too less ?


If service is included, leave anything between 0 and 10% based on the type of restaurant and how happy you were with your service.
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post #7 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:29am
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Originally Posted by lefty View Post

I have one.  Happened this weekend.

 

At a restaurant in a resort town, so casual, but the restaurant is a little higher end.   Older people are dressed in Brooks; younger in casual sportswear.  We're on the back patio.  60ish guy beside us finishes his meal then stretches out his legs and puts his feet on the empty chair at his table.  Directly in front of my wife.  I give it a few minutes just to see if he's trying to work out a charley horse or perhaps is afflicted with gout, but it looks like he's just settling back to digest and enjoy his coffee.  I say, "Excuse me, could I ask you to remove your shoes from that chair."  He looks startled, then pissed but complies.  His companion grumbles, "What's the big deal?"  I say, "Do you really need me to explain this?"

 

They pay and leave.  The waitress later confesses that she couldn't say anything or risk losing her job.  The hostess is pissed that I scared off her regulars.

 

Discuss.

 

lefty


You want to know whether it is appropriate to say something to somebody at another table who is putting his feet up on a chair at his own table, is older than you, in a resort town, on the patio in the proximity of your wife? Unless the feet were unshod, I think you probably know the answer to this.
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post #8 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:31am

Pretty confident in my response but curious what other people would have done.

 

lefty

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post #9 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:32am
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Well, unless the guy had no shoes on and toe cheese, you were out of line.
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post #10 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:35am
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Someone's out of control brat runs up to your table, grabs the edge of it, and goes to touch something on your table. The correct response is?
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post #11 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:46am
Waiter asks if you're done eating when there's still food on your plate, you're still holding the utensils, and you're chewing food at the moment. After noticing all of the above, he just stands there and waits for your response. Do you:

(a) Respond with your mouth full of food.
(b) Finish chewing, prolong the awkward moment, and say no.
(c) Gesture at the food still on your plate and in your mouth.
(d) Ignore him until he goes away.
(e) Do something else.

And in any event, how much would you reduce his tip, if at all?
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post #12 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:49am

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Well, unless the guy had no shoes on and toe cheese, you were out of line.


Interesting.  Patio yes, but we were under a canopy and the chairs were cloth covered.  Many of the women there were wearing white pants or dresses and I doubt they wanted to sit in whatever shit this guy dragged in on his shoes.

 

Personal peeve of mine - take your feet off the furniture.  

 

lefty

 

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post #13 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:54am
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Interesting.  Patio yes, but we were under a canopy and the chairs were cloth covered.  Many of the women there were wearing white pants or dresses and I doubt they wanted to sit in whatever shit this guy dragged in on his shoes.

 

Personal peeve of mine - take your feet off the furniture.  

 

lefty

 


I didn't say he wasn't being rude. There is a pretty big gap between the onset of rudeness and when it is OK to act as hall monitor and tell somebody at another table what to do. Your pet peeves aren't really the issue there. Now, as I said, if he had toe cheese, or if he was shaking his dick around, fine.
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post #14 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:54am
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Waiter asks if you're done eating when there's still food on your plate, you're still holding the utensils, and you're chewing food at the moment. After noticing all of the above, he just stands there and waits for your response. Do you:

(a) Respond with your mouth full of food.
(b) Finish chewing, prolong the awkward moment, and say no.
(c) Gesture at the food still on your plate and in your mouth.
(d) Ignore him until he goes away.
(e) Do something else.

And in any event, how much would you reduce his tip, if at all?

I would casually finish chewing (b), but when finished with my mouthful, ask him if it would appear to him/her that I look finished? If the fact I was actively eating gives off the impression I'm finished eating? I have done this before and been told he was just checking as he wanted to turn the table. The tip was exactly $0.00.
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post #15 of 409
8/2/11 at 7:56am
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Interesting.  Patio yes, but we were under a canopy and the chairs were cloth covered.  Many of the women there were wearing white pants or dresses and I doubt they wanted to sit in whatever shit this guy dragged in on his shoes.

 

Personal peeve of mine - take your feet off the furniture.  

 

lefty

 


I would never comment on bad manners at my own table, nonetheless another. Unless someone's behavior is genuinely disrupting my dining experience, I don't make their etiquette my business.
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