on Love

How many of you are romantics at heart. How much of an emphasis do you place on love. What do you think constitutes love.

It seems that life would be so bland and mechanical without it. I for one find myself to be extremely emotional at times. I seem to be able to fully immerse myself in the moment/emotions and my thoughts run like crazy on this matter.



I would be interested in seeing what kind of thoughts you guys have.

Easy on the pseudoscience, cap.

I am almost entirely driven by love.

Originally Posted by Arethusa

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Easy on the pseudoscience, cap.
Ok Mr. Cruise.

I believe in love and is driven by it, but it likes to kick your ass from time to time and make one more cynical. Happens, I suppose.

Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim

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Love is chemically no different than eating large quantities of chocolate

GEKKO:\tYou and I are the same, Darien. We're smart enough not to buy into the oldest myth running: love... A\tfiction created by people who got nothing to keep them from jumping out of windows.

DARIEN: You're really twisted, Gordon. You're incapable of giving to anybody because deep down inside you there's a poverty that every last dollar in the world won't fill.


In response to the OP, I find that I rarely develop real feelings for other people. I've loved one girl in my life and the others have been sorta take them or leave them kind of affairs.

I respect my father in the sense that he's very knowledgable in a lot of areas and I enjoy conversations with him, but I can't say for sure that I love him. He was too much of a prick when I was growing-up and so we never really bonded. Even now i'll occasionally do something that he'll perceive as "insensitive" and he'll completely go-off on me. He was never very good at focusing his anger/frustration where it belonged, so I got the spill-over. We generally get along well now but I think i became incapable of loving him when i was a teen.

I do hope to meet a girl that will eventually change things but all the pieces have to be in place or it just won't happen. I tend not to think about it too much b/c I'm generally enjoying singles life and not having any commitments that matter.

I am quite "a Romantasist" as my girlfriend puts it. Yes I believe in love and all that business. I like to treat my girl to nice things spontaneously to show her that I appreceate her. I felt weird the first time I met her and when I took her out for our first few dates the feeling never left. I guess you could describe that as love, even though in it self is indescribable

Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim

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Ok Mr. Cruise.

You want to be a materialist, fine. Just don't go around preaching pseudoscientific pop biopsych that belongs in last year's copy of Cosmo.

Originally Posted by Arethusa

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You want to be a materialist, fine. Just don't go around preaching pseudoscientific pop biopsych that belongs in last year's copy of Cosmo.
How is that any different than people preaching about "love" to everyone like its some sort of undeniable divine magic trick? I fail to see the difference. You buy into love just like you buy into any other emotion. Why don't you go ahead and jump on my case for posting a movie quote that came to mind when I read the OP's original question. If you have something to say about it, why not say it instead of lambasting me for something Al Pacino said to Keanu Reeves in a movie in 1997... Maybe you should write them an angry letter.

Originally Posted by Arethusa

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You want to be a materialist, fine. Just don't go around preaching pseudoscientific pop biopsych that belongs in last year's copy of Cosmo.

It's actually from The Devil's advocate, although he should have said biochemically

Originally Posted by GQgeek

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It's actually from The Devil's advocate, although he should have said biochemically

Someone is paying attention, and it ain't me...

Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim

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How is that any different than people preaching about "love" to everyone like its some sort of undeniable divine magic trick? I fail to see the difference. You buy into love just like you buy into any other emotion. Why don't you go ahead and jump on my case for posting a movie quote that came to mind when I read the OP's original question. If you have something to say about it, why not say it instead of lambasting me for something Al Pacino said to Keanu Reeves in a movie in 1997... Maybe you should write them an angry letter.
I am unfamiliar with the movie, but it didn't (and doesn't) sound like you were just quoting for fun. Of course, "all you need is love" is nearly as annoying, but pseduomaterialism is worse because it carries with it a a fake sense of legitimacy. It's not science. In any case, if you weren't serious, I apologize.

Originally Posted by Arethusa

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I am unfamiliar with the movie, but it didn't (and doesn't) sound like you were just quoting for fun.

I'm just tired of all this rote glorifying of emotional irresponsibility. Too often people use love/hate/etc. as excuses for irrational, annoying, and screwed up behavior. If love were some law of nature, and not some media fueled, indoctrinated self-perpetuating chemical dependancy, people who fell in love would stay in love forever. Divorce lawyers would be poor and poets would drive BMW's.

Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim

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If love were some law of nature, and not some media fueled, indoctrinated self-perpetuating chemical dependancy, people who fell in love would stay in love forever. Divorce lawyers would be poor and poets would drive BMW's.

Now that is quotable.