Need help (girl of my dreams) - Page 6

Listen, plan this shit out a little. When you want to call her, have a purpose - don't talk about talking at the gym for 20 minutes. And by the way, that's terribly obnoxious. Personally, I think you're deep in friend zone/pity territory hence why she takes your calls and humors you with conversation. Upset by that? Well change that by acting with some purpose. Invite her out and make it clear it's a date. If she doesn't like it, then you know she ain't interested. Hey, maybe she just wants to get some action/play around before she leaves town, but she isn't going to put out if you pussy foot.

So it didn't work out with the Brooks Brothers chick?

http://www.styleforum.net/showthread.php?t=203327

lmao. The BB thread and this one deliver.

I'd agree with you if the girl hadn't actually called him back, and put up with his ridiculous stalling on the phone. Would you do either of those things? Girls I date wouldn't. Then again, girls I date are rarely enthusiastic.

+1. She is the woman of my dreams, too

listen to me OP, I went through the same exact thing, yesterday. today the girl of my dreams and I are dating exclusively. I can share you my secret, just post pics!


she called after an hour, thats a good sign. even if, as tomgirl said she was just being nice, that is a good start/reset. ask her if she likes her toes to be sucked ala quentin tarantino!


yo pm me brah

Late newb joiner to this, but unfortunately I'm more towards tomgirl's view of the situation. I think she wants to be friends. I hope that I'm wrong and this story continues to a happy ending for you!

Her flakiness is a negative sign to me. Your initial interaction was supposed to be going to the beach in the morning. She said yes, but then backed out with the "not feeling so great" card. She should not have had other plans that kept her "busy until 2" after backing out on you.

The new phone conversation is a nice sign, but I would definitely play this by ear and wouldn't fall head-over-captoes for her yet. As a side note, I generally have an idea of location and time before making the call. After she says it'd be great, you just have to tell her the what and where (preferably with two days notice).

Keeping my fingers crossed that she is keeping some time open to hanging out.

I've been saying this for years. Once women master asexual reproduction, we'll pretty much be out of the picture.

She's blowing you off without wanting to be confrontational about it.

Let it go, dude.

Plus, she's leaving in a month and a half. Quit trying to rationalize your horniness by saying that it's healthy to only see your girlfriend once a month. Just. Let. It. Go.

You might want to quit trying so hard. Many women shy away from a guy who seems to be in constant pursuit. You have to care, but not that much. Because of the female ego, she'll shy away from you if you're persistent, calling everyday...basically, showing you're interested. Most females tend to feel better about giving a run-around to a guy who does those things. But it's the guy who shows he doesn't give much of a fuck whom they chase after relentlessly. Instead of trying as hard as you are, just become "too busy." But don't overdo it because she might eventually say "fuck it." Just enough for her to know that you care about the two of you dating/talking, but not enough to chase her. Stop calling her, stop texting, stop the facebook bullshit, etc. Make it appear as if you just lose interest.Then when or if she finally calls, tell her you've been taking care of business and haven't had time to call.

Pics goddammit

+1

I think you've handled things pretty well (by SF standards) though you are being too meek. Don't really understand why you didn't organize the Friday date then and there. She's hard to get on the phone and to pin down. So, you finally speak to her, she doesn't have plans....and you put it off till Fri? Now she can just not pick up the phone or say she's busy. Don't really understand how you can reach age of 31 and have so little game. If most moderately-game-having guys saw your interactions with her they'd be able to tell in 5 min whether she was interested or not. She's either immature in relationships or she's just being nice. A little bit of positivity, I was in the same situation. However, I was a lot more direct and yet she still was flaky and noncomittal. After our first 2 dates, couldn't say whether I was a friend or what. Some friends told me she just wasn't interested but I was really into her and kept at it. After we started dating (for real) she mentioned that she had made me chase her for a month so it was a conscious decision on her part. We were together for 2 years. Call her today and make definite plans for Friday. Pick her up (if possible)...do as many things as you can to make it obvious this is a date. Kiss her goodnight. You should know by then, or you'll be back here with more actions to decipher. Your other option is to drop it for a week or two. If you keep bugging her without any closing she's going to start seeing you as an irritant or a stalker.

Apparently I missed the swim suit pic? Sonnofa....