Originally Posted by Richard Pryor
Called her on friday afternoon. She answered the phone very friendly. SOme chit chat about what she had done the night before. I asked what she was doing and she said she was packing because a friend (she was very specific about it being a male friend) had invited her to spend the weekend over at some place a few hours away from the city. She said she hadn't seen him in a while, and they saw each other the day before and he invited her and she said yes.
I then told her too bad cause I was calling to see if she had plans that night cause I wanted to ask her out/hang out with her, and she immediately said "well, raincheck then" I told no problem, and quickly finished the conversation saying I'd let her finish pack her bags.
For all I know, her 'boy' friend is a homosexual, or he might be Evan Stone. I'm thinking the latter just for mental clarity.
In any case, it was a learning experience. I should've asked her out when I called on Wednesday and make definite plans. But, had I made definite plans on Wednesday, and if Evan would've asked her out on Thursday to spend the weekend god knows where, would she have cancelled my plans?
Obviously the switch is back off.
I will see her again next week at the gym, probably tomorrow or Wednesday, and my plan is to act very cool and friendly, as if nothing has happened, as if I don't give a fuck. Don't plan on asking her anything about her weekend, and I also don't plan to ask her out or call her again, unless of course she mentions something to me. The way I see it, the ball is in her court. Agreed?
Seems like she's having fun before leaving in August.
I'll be honest, this is the kind of girl that's a keeper. So I might want to play my cards well so I can gamble again when she returns in one year. A lot can happen in one year, I know. But everything happens for a reason and if I can take anything out of this is that it was a learning experience on how not to act around girls you like.
Around girls I just want to fuck, I'm completely cool, suave, etc. But when I see a 'good' girl (marriage material) I'm not the coolest cat.
Please keep the insults coming. COnstructive criticism is also welcomed. Particularly regarding what you think this girl thinks of me. I mean, she' friendly with me, answers the phone even if she's in a crowded place, calls back and this to a guy she knows is interested in her because I'm not the type of guy that's looking for girl friends. I'm sure at least I get that message through.
Loved your honesty so far guys, and it's been very helpful, so please keep it coming.
Based on what you said, I don't think she is interested. Sorry. Had you made plans and she actually liked you, she wouldn't have made plans to go out of town with a guy friend. Seeing as this option never existed, we'll never really know the "coulda, woulda, shoulda."
As it is, it looks like she isn't interested or she was and you let the interest fade. You could attempt some grand gesture but I think you're putting her on a pedestal she is undeserving of. If she wanted to see you, she would have already. Playing it cool in hopes for another shot at it a year from now entails two situations in my mind: (1) you stay in touch with her and get friend zone'd; or (2) you don't really stay in touch and your selling points fade into the back of her mind like every other guy she's met at the bar or gym over the past year.