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post #1 of 12
6/24/11 at 4:18am
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any thoughts as to the dating scene in shanghai?

i am a white american in my late 20's and will be living there for the first half of next year.

my research has come across a lot of "shanghai women are gold diggers" and "i got scammed for $2k by a prostitute."

are the women really that bad there or are guys just idiots and falling in love and giving women all their monies?

thanks
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post #2 of 12
6/24/11 at 11:27am
Can you speak Chinese?
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post #3 of 12
6/24/11 at 11:38am
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are the women really that bad there

yes.
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post #4 of 12
6/24/11 at 2:25pm
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Can you speak Chinese?

nothing beyond elementary conversation
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post #5 of 12
6/24/11 at 4:39pm
There's so many foreigners in Shanghai... avoid dating locals and you won't really have to worry about this.
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post #6 of 12
6/26/11 at 4:17am
I wouldn't worry too much. Yeah, there are a lot of materialistic gold diggers, but you can spot them from a mile away. I wouldn't go in to it having already decided to stay away from the local girls or anything like that. That's terrible advice and immediately rules out a lot of otherwise really good people. My suggestions: Brush up on your Chinese. People will take you more seriously, both in dating and day-to-day situations. Be open but skeptical (more a general suggestion but also applies to dating). If something seems too good to be true, forget about it. Everything is fake/has a catch in this fucking country. Other than that just have fun. Don't think too much about it. Shanghai is huge, so there's plenty of shit for everyone. It's like any other big city. Enjoy the food, fuck with the local girls, hang out with other expats if you aren't interested in Chinese girls, whatever. Just relax and have a good time. And for what it's worth I'm also a late 20's, white American guy living here.
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post #7 of 12
6/26/11 at 2:48pm
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any thoughts as to the dating scene in shanghai?

i am a white american in my late 20's and will be living there for the first half of next year.

my research has come across a lot of "shanghai women are gold diggers" and "i got scammed for $2k by a prostitute."

are the women really that bad there or are guys just idiots and falling in love and giving women all their monies?

thanks

i have not been to shanghai but really how is this any different than most places? 90 percent of women would rather date a millionaire than a guy with supposeldy decent salary.. and htis does nto depend upon location.
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post #8 of 12
6/26/11 at 2:53pm
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any thoughts as to the dating scene in shanghai?

i am a white american in my late 20's and will be living there for the first half of next year.

my research has come across a lot of "shanghai women are gold diggers" and "i got scammed for $2k by a prostitute."

are the women really that bad there or are guys just idiots and falling in love and giving women all their monies?

thanks

I lived there for a while. I hung out with the expat crowd, and I found that the local girls who were worthwhile hung out with expats. These girls had good jobs, spoke at least serviceable english, were at least moderately affluent and were very genuine, honest and endearing. If you want to date locals, you need some sort of...filter.
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post #9 of 12
6/27/11 at 4:17am
Strangely enough, in Guang Dong I found that the girls who weren't worthwhile hung out with expats. But expats are 10x sleezier in Guang Dong than other parts of China (and that's saying something).
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post #10 of 12
6/27/11 at 4:27am
I haven't been to China but I would side with Eason's comment to relate to Asian women in general, as Duff_man's comment seems a bit blind, and it is a function of how sleazy the expats in question are. I'd imagine the trim is a bit nicer if in Hong Kong or Tokyo and you're on a banker's salary or better. In Korea the foreign population isn't even really allowed to talk to the hottest local girls, and they too only need men for money, there is not much difference between Shanghainese and Seoul girls I'd imagine. dacox said it right that there is usually a catch if something seems too good to be true; its just a matter of being whether you can get over it or not.
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post #11 of 12
6/27/11 at 4:38am
Hm, I feel like I should paint a picture. If you are in IB or something and a local girl hangs around when you go to Sasha's or whatever and likes to take you shopping, you know what kind of girl you have. However, there are many many girls in Shanghai who are grad management trainees at HSBC or whatnot, who hang around with expats, speak decent english and can actually have meaningful discussion about politics or economics. In my experience, the former were weeded out of expat groups quite quickly. At the least, they were ID'd and branded. The latter were welcomed in and I have reunited with many of such girls in places like London, New York, Toronto, Tokyo since. It's also entirely possible that I just got lucky and fell in with the 'right crowd'. Obviously, meeting these 'worthwhile' locals depends on what kind of kinship your school/employer has with local counter parts, what acquaintences and friends-of-friends you have in Shanghai and what kinds of places you tend to frequent (SF moment: I met a couple at a 16Pu fabric market stall that was popular with expats, and a couple others at Maya)
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post #12 of 12
6/27/11 at 4:43am
Well, I'm a soulless Asian native at this point, so I tend to prioritize face, tits, and waist and count wifeable status based on their potential longevity - earning power is not as important, but as long as you stay out of the cheap places it's harder to meet the scraggies anyway. (and yes, I am an asshole, but I do have a hot girlfriend who makes my days better)
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