Originally Posted by TourbillonTurk.
IÂ´ve been seeing this girl for the past month or so. Her father happens to be quite well-off and his daughter is naturally well looked after by daddy, sheÂ´s also a student. I am also studying (2nd year law) and do have a modest amount of money to spend each month. However, the situation is the girl is a bit "too" acquainted" with the finer things. As a result I constantly find myself in ridiculously high priced restaurants and bars in London for a date (this week we had dinner at CaprianiÂ´s in Mayfair/London). Call me old fashioned but on dates I have always insisted on paying, as a result in this month iÂ´ve spent ridiculous amounts on food and drinks. The girl really does have a good character "i think" and I enjoy being with her, I donÂ´t think she is too spoiled but nonetheless the love of too-much high class is annoying me now especially as students
Has anybody else fell into this situation before? And how ze Fuck do I tell her kindly to stop dragging me to over priced places and for her to come back down to earth ?
Stop being dragged along, sport. Easy.
End of the day - to be extremely blunt for a moment, even good girl sex isn't worth the hole in your wallet. Is it.
There is one word to solve your problems. That word is 'Soho'. If you don't find a few holes to have a great time in for not too much money, you're doing it wrong or you're not a member, in which case, make some friends who are.
Stay out of Mayfair, bro, unless a) it's a special occasion b) you feel like blowing a load of cash c) you're splitting and you feel like taking a hit.
A gentleman will pay on the first date if he wants. You split on all the others. It's the 21st century. You're not going to be able to compete with daddy, so don't try.
Lastly, remember - a swish lawyer type like you finds all of those places a bit vulgar, a great scam, a bit of a show, for middle class divorcees. Don't you?
'Oh God, Mayfair again?
Christ, take me now.' Do some homework and don't get sucked in to the idea that money spent=quality of date=quality of relationship.
And go to the Wolseley instead next time. It's a scream.
And don't start trying to explain your penury, you will then appear JUST ANOTHER POOR STUDENT. Women like this are NOT UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR SITUATION
, dearest, dearest bro. As part of willpower's post indicates, you have to play this one intelligently.