FWIW, I've received a package via FedEx from TBS and one from DHL from Superdenim and didn't get hit on either. There's still hope.
Well... I just noticed UPS is the one company I haven't had to deal with internationally
once I ordered a $20 item from the US and had to pay $70 in fees to UPS, never again
Fedex delivery guy told me they include a flat rate brokerage in the shipping fee they charge the merchant, and I just get hit with customs from them, which is a predictable 15 to 20 % so it isn't too bad, same with DHL except you pay a little brokerage according to some percentage
but UPS just slaps that brokerage price tag on there depending on their mood