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post #31 of 40
6/1/11 at 11:53pm
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why do you hate catholics?



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as an aside, its not really the size of the family but the combination of how emotionally attached your partner is to her family plus the presence of people with no sense of personal space in that family. even smaller sized families have that problem- a brother that needs bail, an in-law that needs a job, a nephew that needs to crash....
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post #32 of 40
6/2/11 at 12:54am
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I really can't stand my GF's family. She has 7 siblings and it feels like our relationship revolves around her big family. The only time we have time together is the weekend, and even then there's the big brother coming over to borrow my tools, the the broke ass little brother coming over to "pass" the weekend, and not to mention the numerous driving duties and financial obligations I have hitherto committed to make her happy by yielding to her siblings' wishes. I am just so damn depressed about it all. How big of a factor does in-laws play in your relationship? Is it worth it in the long-run? I think at this point if a woman tells me she's an only child or has no more than 1 sibling I could definitely see something serious down the road. My current GF is a sweetheart but damn she has way too many brothers.
I have found a person cannot be in two places at once. I am, not an either or person, but, either the priority is you and her relationship with you or her priority is to her family of origin. Been there is sucks the weiner. This is setting the tone for the rest of your relationship; find out where she stands.
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post #33 of 40
6/3/11 at 1:00am
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I really can't stand my GF's family. She has 7 siblings and it feels like our relationship revolves around her big family. The only time we have time together is the weekend, and even then there's the big brother coming over to borrow my tools, the the broke ass little brother coming over to "pass" the weekend, and not to mention the numerous driving duties and financial obligations I have hitherto committed to make her happy by yielding to her siblings' wishes. I am just so damn depressed about it all. How big of a factor does in-laws play in your relationship? Is it worth it in the long-run? I think at this point if a woman tells me she's an only child or has no more than 1 sibling I could definitely see something serious down the road. My current GF is a sweetheart but damn she has way too many brothers.

my last relationship broke up because of GF's family. Very close Italians - i mean close even in the physical sense, they all lived in a row of 3 houses, inc GF.
Funny thing is that the family thing and her role in it attracted me in the first place. She has an innocence and groundedness that comes from never really having grown up relative to her siblings/mother. The mother pretty quickly decided to pretend I didn't exist - refused to speak to or to acknowledge my existence, and GF didn't know how to handle that. She was torn, and when it came down to family or BF, guess who won? Her family, esp the mother, really couldn't believe that GF could love anybody more than them. If your GF can't be decisive and choose you over them I'd say it's probably not going to work out. it's BS but true
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post #34 of 40
6/3/11 at 1:17am
^ but was their food good?
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post #35 of 40
6/3/11 at 8:53am
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^ but was their food good?

I had a taster, but yes
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post #36 of 40
6/3/11 at 9:46pm
This family burden will only get worse. Time to eject. Date an orphan next time.
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post #37 of 40
6/3/11 at 9:59pm
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Not if they're shameless about their behaviors. I've told them repeatedly to phone ahead of time, but they'd just show up in the middle of the day.

I don't get how this is shameless at all. Maybe it's a different culture thing, but i think it'd be fucking stupid if i had to phone before going to visit my family.
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post #38 of 40
6/4/11 at 7:10am
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I don't get how this is shameless at all. Maybe it's a different culture thing, but i think it'd be fucking stupid if i had to phone before going to visit my family.

why? supposed they are not home?? or have/had plans??
and HER family comes to visit th OP and hit him up for stuff. CALL!
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post #39 of 40
6/4/11 at 7:29am
I really enjoy the company of my in-laws. Then again, I see them perhaps once or twice a year.
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post #40 of 40
6/4/11 at 5:29pm
There are two absolute truths about marriage - you're marrying the entire family, and every woman will begin to increasingly resemble their mother. Lots of fish in the sea, lots of sweethearts out there. If her siblings are unbearable now, you're looking at perhaps 10-15 years (they all get married / settle down / have lives of their own) before that changes - best case. If you don't love her that much, or can't cope with life as it exists, do yourself and her a favor and cut bait now so that you can each get on with your respective lives.
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