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post #61 of 94
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o over compensate for paying more than my fair share whenever the occasion arose.
this is why I don't like going out. I have to tip 25% or more to counter balance the black people stereotype.
post #62 of 94
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Originally Posted by TC (Houston) View Post
No self-respecting gentleman should ever let a date pick up a tab at a restaurant or bar. Letting her chip-in is doubly embarrassing. If she wants to do something nice for you, she can treat you to a picnic lunch or prepare a dinner for you at her house.
+1. Also, no one has mentioned that her looks are a big factor in the payment timing & protocol.
post #63 of 94
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Originally Posted by TC (Houston) View Post
No self-respecting gentleman should ever let a date pick up a tab at a restaurant or bar. Letting her chip-in is doubly embarrassing. If she wants to do something nice for you, she can treat you to a picnic lunch or prepare a dinner for you at her house.

lol@this. Do you go to the drive in theater afterwards and get upset when she calls Cary Grant handsome? This is a different generation good sir.
post #64 of 94
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lol@this. Do you go to the drive in theater afterwards and get upset when she calls Cary Grant handsome? This is a different generation good sir.

It certainly is. Your generation has documented lower testosterone and sperm count levels too, so this thread isn't all that surprising.

What I want to know is how many of you rugged individualists would expect the girl you were with to get out and change a flat tire if it was "her turn"? Of course in your defense some of you probably don't even know how.
post #65 of 94
He who asked the pleasure, pays for the pleasure. So if you asked her out for the evening you should pay 100% of the time. If she asked you out then you should still offer to pay. Though if she requests a second time to pick it up allow her to. In my experience I am usually asking the woman out for the 1st date. After that its up in the air though about 75%+ I am picking up the tab for the entire evening, I ask the women out more often and plan evenings more often.
post #66 of 94
after the first one.
post #67 of 94
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Originally Posted by redcaimen View Post
Of course in your defense some of you probably don't even know how.
damn right I don't know how!! That's why you have to bike everywhere.
post #68 of 94
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Originally Posted by cronicmole View Post
lol@this. Do you go to the drive in theater afterwards and get upset when she calls Cary Grant handsome? This is a different generation good sir.

You have a lot to learn about dating, Mr. "I was raised by my single mother".

Attractive women pair with alpha men.
One trait of Alpha men is to have resources.

Has nothing to do with generations.
This is an immutable law of nature.
post #69 of 94
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Originally Posted by cronicmole View Post
lol@this. Do you go to the drive in theater afterwards and get upset when she calls Cary Grant handsome? This is a different generation good sir.

Different generation? I'm 35 FWIW. That's the way I was raised, and it has always served me well.
post #70 of 94
Part of what makes the beginning of a relationship so awkward is figuring out how to mesh culturally with women.

I don't agree that women should put out to have us pay for their dinner, that just makes them bargain prostitutes.

Some men appreciate being able to buy their women things. Some women appreciate the gesture. To others it is antiquated.

I feel that going dutch and/or having the occasional solo payer is perfectly appropriate.

It is always best to cook for each other anyway. Much healthier and cheaper.
post #71 of 94
I always pay unless she insists to pay, but I don't like it when she expects me to pay. It's almost tragic.
post #72 of 94
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Originally Posted by gauche.story View Post
Part of what makes the beginning of a relationship so awkward is figuring out how to mesh culturally with women.

I don't agree that women should put out to have us pay for their dinner, that just makes them bargain prostitutes.
It is called Gift Exchange, sir!!
post #73 of 94
The guy pays until the relationship gets comfortable, and then you take turns. This is the ideal way, anyway.

The problem here is that there are a lot of variables. Some women hate when men try to pay every time. Some women hate when men don't try to pay every time. Some women are still putting themselves through college, and you can't reasonably expect them to pay even half their share.

The trick is to figure out her opinion and be accommodating to it.
post #74 of 94
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Originally Posted by redcaimen View Post
It certainly is. Your generation has documented lower testosterone and sperm count levels too, so this thread isn't all that surprising.

What I want to know is how many of you rugged individualists would expect the girl you were with to get out and change a flat tire if it was "her turn"? Of course in your defense some of you probably don't even know how.

I don't have/use cars. I'm sure you'll come along shortly to tell us how this is a stain on my masculinity. Paying for a fucking dinner isn't gender specific.
post #75 of 94
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Originally Posted by Reevolving View Post
You have a lot to learn about dating, Mr. "I was raised by my single mother".

Attractive women pair with alpha men.
One trait of Alpha men is to have resources.

Has nothing to do with generations.
This is an immutable law of nature.

It's an immutable law of nature that women will go for men who have printed pieces of paper with dead presidents on them and use them to acquire bottled fermented grapes and heated animal carcasses brought by people wearing a ritual penguin outfit?
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