Originally Posted by ter1413
Bad feelings?? WTF!! My ex's would TELL ME, I'm taking you out for dionner or let's get some drinks.....$$ between people in a relationship should not be an issue(for the most part-unless she is unemployed!) We would make joke bets on stupid things to see who would pay for dinner!
But as for the OP's question, if she insists or asks, don't make a huge issue of it! Joke with her and tell her, "you're on." And just thank her after! Something like that can be the start of a relationship where she starts to plan things for the both of you to do....ex.."hey , i got tkts to xyz on sat night, don't make plans!" And she won't expect you to pay for your tkt because she knows that it will come back around!
I think it is just the way I was raised. My family went out to dinner everyday growing up and my father always paid, while my mother was a princess and didn't work or anything. He also very generous in general so I think just being around it for years ingrained the same behaviors into me.
I have a friend where plain etiquette is a big thing for him. if he pays for drinks or dinner and doesn't get a simple thank you it is a deal breaker, or if they just don't even "try" to pay, or offer to pay.
Now, with my girlfriend, if she is the one to invite me out she pays. It makes a lot of sense, but I have dated girls where they will invite you out, or to an event and sit back while they catch a free night with you. That is just rude.