During my freshman year of college, I became involved with the campus newspaper and also pledged a fraternity. I realized after about two weeks that pledging was not right for me, so I depledged. I continued working on the newspaper, eventually becoming editor-in-chief. It was the best decision I made in college. Practically every benefit that has been mentioned about being in a fraternity, I achieved through working on the newspaper. I didn't need to be forced to drink or do ridiculous and humiliating things to bond me with other guys or to give me something in common with the people who were in the house before me. Instead, I stayed up until 4 a.m. bonding with the other staff as we put together a newspaper, just like people had done for the past 100 years the paper had been around. It was fun. I learned a shit load, and it gave me valuable experience. It's always puzzled me that fraternities need to do humiliating and dangerous things to bond. Why not go volunteer together? Why not accomplish something difficult that's productive? You bond just as well without any of the booze and homoeroticism. When I was an underclassmen, the juniors and seniors on the staff were mentors to me. They helped me with papers, recommended classes, gave me advice about chicks, and bought me booze. They threw parties on the weekends. There are former editors of the paper who have gone on to do big things in the world, not just in journalism, and they are great resources even years later. Staff members lived in houses together and went on spring break together. Sometimes some of us had sex with each other, because the staff had guys and girls. Many are still close friends of mine. Okay, so we weren't the kings of the campus, but we also didn't have inferiority complexes that would lead us to needing to think we were kings of the campus. Join a club at school. They have everything that's good about a fraternity, but are a lot cheaper and way less gay. Plus, you are doing something productive with your time.