Originally Posted by Kajak
If I were to emigrate to Asia, I would not expect my Western mannerisms, habits, leadership/work style etc to be as successful as it is here. Likewise, in a Western business environment, raising children in the "Tiger Family" or whatever fails horribly at setting a child up for corporate/executive success here. It just teaches the wrong skill set.
I made a point a while back, but it seems to have been lost. Pretty much "every" first generation Chinese family is a Tiger family. However, until fairly recently, these immigrants were coming to the US and Canada for economic opportunities, and they did not have the capabilities to groom their children for real leadership roles. In any culture, people tend to stay within their socio-economic class. There are compelling exceptions, but they are exceptions nonetheless.
That working class Chinese have been able to groom their children, within a single generation, to middle and upper-middle class success should not be looked on as a failure. I think that this thread shows clearly that the fact that it is is wound up with insidious cultural stereotypes. I don't think that an African American who made it out of the slums to become a doctor would be looked on as a failure. I don't think that a white woman who becomes the first of her working class family to graduate college and become and engineer would be viewed as a failure. And yet, posters have characterized the Asian guy who made it to the same level as anemic, lacking in social graces, lacking in leadership potential, etc...
There are second generation Chinese immigrants who become successful "leaders", and unsurprisingly, those I know nearly all come from more affluent and educated families who have assimilated more fully with western culture, while maintaining a lot of the discipline that is a characteristic of Chinese culture. Again, there are, of course, exceptions.