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Can a guy say no?

jwarri5

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article from http://www.bigtopic.net (not a personal experience)

If you hate reading, skip the first 3 paragraphs (details).

Last week I was invited to a party (last Friday) by a girl who I barely knew. I accepted since I had nothing else to do on this Friday night. I brought a buddy because I didn't wanted to be alone with full of people I don't know, well I did that well because there were like 20 other guys and girls that I've never met before. We've eventually had fun with them by drinking, smoking, dancing and what not.

Throughout the night, this one blond girl caught my eye and I started trying to approach her. She was a bit drunk but very self-conscious. Approaching her was hard because she was with her group of girlfriends nonstop and they seemed to have tons of fun together. At about 1am (3hrs after we came there), my buddy and I find that the party is boring for us because we were having a hard time to get part of the group. So I put on my jacket and prepared to go out of there.

Just before leaving, 4 girls saw my buddy and I and came to us and tried to convince us to stay. They said that I was way too drunk and high to drive and they took my keys and hid them somewhere.

Eventually I decided to be a man and approach the blond chick for real. Some of us were on the balcony and fooled around while the one chick pushed me to do something stupid (pole dancing on a loose pole). I said that I didn't want to and we ended up arguing. While everyone was going back inside, I stayed out with here and she said that she was cold and I put my arms around her.

It took me some minutes of hugging before I decided to give her a kiss. She liked it and the next thing I know is that we were making out. We did this for a long while. Eventually, we both were cold and decided to go inside. We took it to another level : making out on top of each other.

Just before we both knew where all of this was going, she told me something like : « This is a bad thing, without alcohol we wouldn't ever be at this point, but I love this ». That left me thinking.

We continued and she told me that she had to go get something in her van. Of course, she just wanted to lure me out of the sight of everyone to take it to a higher level once again. Skipping useless details, I ended up laying over her in the back of her van (there was quite a lot of space and we were quite comfortable).

Just before going to the highest point, she once again spoke to me, saying something like : « This is very bad, we should stop, we don't know each other, but I like it so much and I know that you like it as well ».

Trust me, I wanted to stop. I don't know anything about this girl except her name.

After all, we ended up fk... I didn't feel proud of myself, I wanted to stop but as a guy I just couldn't.

Could you guys have stopped?

Btw, we are both 17 years old.

article from http://www.bigtopic.net
 

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My life is diminshed for having read the first and last paragraph of this thread. Let that serve as a warning.
 

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I, and I think almost all men, have said no at least once in our lives. In fact, I said no this past Friday night. Really not a big deal. There are plenty of women that it is not in your best interest to sleep with.

However, at seventeen you probably lack the confidence (and wisdom) to pull this off. Experience is the best teacher.

/Get off my lawn!
 

Thomas

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I've said no plenty of times and have no regrets.
 

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Originally Posted by Thomas
I've said no plenty of times and have no regrets.

No ?
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Are no regrets the regrets you have when you say no?
 

Thomas

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Originally Posted by Tibo
No ?
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Definitely no. Well, at least as far as that particular situation goes.

Do I regret not studying harder in school, well, sure. Wish I hadn't grown that mullet, either (that was the 80's, folks!). Wish I had said "no" to majoring in Physics. Wish I had spent more time with either grandfather. Okay, I have regrets.

But, as far as the tawdry first-night, never-got-the-name, scratching-the-itch hookup - I'm glad I passed on them when I did. Saved my career and my sanity a few times.
 

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Originally Posted by Thomas
But, as far as the tawdry first-night, never-got-the-name, scratching-the-itch hookup - I'm glad I passed on them when I did. Saved my career and my sanity a few times.

You probably saved a treasured part of your anatomy if not your life...
 

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One was enough to cure me. Woke up in a strange bed with a woman that I had never seen before (at least that I remembered). Luckily I found out we didn't ********, but just the awkwardness emphasized the need for moderation.
 

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Originally Posted by FLMountainMan
One was enough to cure me. Woke up in a strange bed with a woman that I had never seen before (at least that I remembered). Luckily I found out we didn't ********, but just the awkwardness emphasized the need for moderation.

I'm so not touching this thread ;p
 

Rome

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^ Sounds like you thank God for penicillin.

Sobriety helps out with those tough choices. In my day the worst you got if anything was the clap, now random hookups just seem scary.
 

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Originally Posted by FLMountainMan
One was enough to cure me. Woke up in a strange bed with a woman that I had never seen before (at least that I remembered). Luckily I found out we didn't ********, but just the awkwardness emphasized the need for moderation.

This reminds me of a (mildly racist) joke.

A typical white-collar businessman has a bad day and goes on a bender. He gets blind-drunk, and the next morning he wakes up in a strange bed between two huge black women who are both fast asleep. He doesn't remember anything about how he got there. He looks around for a way to escape and sees that his only chance is to climb over one of the women and hope not to wake either of them before slipping quietly out of the room. He begins climbing over the rather less massive of the two, and just as he's straddled her, she wakes up and shrieks, "Not me! I's just the bridesmaid!"
 

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