Originally Posted by ramuman
The message I took out of it was that it's a struggle to break from what's been ingrained in you for 18 years. To me, the underlying message is that Asian parents want for their kids the same thing that let them make a substantial leap from a modest life abroad to a comfortable life here. The parents think that those same principles (standardized test gaming, a focus on fitting in, etc.) that let them make their leap will directly enable their kids to make a similar leap.
+1. and its not an asian thing imo. we're talking about first, second generation immigrants raising kids in a new environment. I bet there's still a considerable portion of them have experienced or have memories of how harder life was "back home". the aim of these parents is to achieve financial security as soon as possible, lest they "fail" yet again in their new land. interestingly, most of my fellow chinese immigrants here tend to raise their kids to be entrepreneurs and business owners over doctors, engineers and computer whatnots. I can only guess its because in my environment, this road is a faster and safer way to gain financial security.
Originally Posted by drum
Can someone explain the whole cultural conformity thing and the ingraining of Asian mentality to the point they can't act otherwise? If they're Asian Americans surely they're exposed to outside influences. Even if you only surround yourself with people who think the Asian way, whatever that means, you can still think for yourself and break the mold.
I had a traditional, strict Asian upbringing and so did most of my Asian friends, but a lot of us never really complied with all the humility or subservience etc. we were taught during our upbringing, and even those who did weren't as socially retarded as some of the people in the article seem.
I understand the "not losing our identity" way of thinking of immigrants. and for the most parts I also raise my kids hoping that the (in my case) chinese values, and a certain degree of humility, be passed on to my kids. I live in Manila, but we're 3rd generation Chinese immigrants, and a couple of my siblings are 1st generation immigrants there. we have embraced the country we grew up in, definitely, but we were also "brainwashed"
to practice "chinese values" that even here are sometimes different to filipino values.
Originally Posted by Manton
I Much of my upbringing and life choices were, on this dude's terms, culturally Asian.
I knew it! you're a brotha!!!