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How do you uninvite someone's kids from a wedding?

jgold47

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We didn't want to come right out and make it an adult only wedding on the invitation, we only have few friends with kids. We thought we would get around it by specifically addressing it to the individuals we were inviting. Of course one of our friends (a last minute add too no doubt), just rsvp'd for all 4 of them. How do we gracefully uninvite their kids, without making it a big deal?
 

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Tell them that there are no other kids, no facilities to deal with kids and that their kids would be super bored?
 

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It's your day. Screw "graceful." Just politely but firmly tell them it was addressed to the two adults for a reason.
 

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"I'm afraid the kids can't come, we're tight on numbers/the venue is unsuitable/I don't what noisy, smelly, sticky ***** around when I'm getting drunk and ******* my wife."
 

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^ Douche.
 

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here's what we did - my wife said "I hope that you can find a babysitter, if you can't we can help you"
 

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Originally Posted by globetrotter
here's what we did - my wife said "I hope that you can find a babysitter, if you can't we can help you"

Sounds like a good approach.

Another one is to simply own up to it - "My apologies, but there seems to have been a misunderstanding, we intended for this event to be for adults only - we sincerely hope that you can still make it, as we would be very saddened to not have you at our side at such an important day in our lives"
 

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Originally Posted by kungapa
Sounds like a good approach.

Another one is to simply own up to it - "My apologies, but there seems to have been a misunderstanding, we intended for this event to be for adults only - we sincerely hope that you can still make it, as we would be very saddened to not have you at our side at such an important day in our lives"


Bingo. me thinks this is the one. I just dont see why we should aplogize, but I understand sometimes its the right thing to do.

we are having people RSVP online, we can still change the wording on the RSVP page to read adults only, but we really didnt want to go down that road....

The thing that chaps ****** the most is that this guy I invited was the last person we decided to add. I was 40/60 on inviting him, but we decided to be more inclusive because I was really pissed I didnt get invited to his wedding 8 years ago!
 

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Originally Posted by kungapa
Sounds like a good approach.

Another one is to simply own up to it - "My apologies, but there seems to have been a misunderstanding, we intended for this event to be for adults only - we sincerely hope that you can still make it, as we would be very saddened to not have you at our side at such an important day in our lives"


do something like this^^. do NOT offer to help them find a babysitter. you have enough to do!
ALWAYS note on the invite, adults only for any kind of event where you don't want kids to attend!
 

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Originally Posted by ter1413
do something like this^^. do NOT offer to help them find a babysitter. you have enough to do!
ALWAYS note on the invite, adults only for any kind of event where you don't want kids to attend!


hmm.. we were told by several people that this was offensive....I really wanted it to say that on the enclosure for the website, but I was told it pisses people off. That said, we are trending a 95% response which means we are screwed if that keeps up (its only been a week + that the invites have gone out). I am going to add that to the RSVP page, and if anyone doesnt like it, tough.... Its my wedding and the one day I get to act like a chick and get away with it(unlike everyother day it happens)
 

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Originally Posted by jgold47
hmm.. we were told by several people that this was offensive....I really wanted it to say that on the enclosure for the website, but I was told it pisses people off. That said, we are trending a 95% response which means we are screwed if that keeps up (its only been a week + that the invites have gone out). I am going to add that to the RSVP page, and if anyone doesnt like it, tough.... Its my wedding and the one day I get to act like a chick and get away with it(unlike everyother day it happens)

fukk what people say! i travelled to a destination wedding in belgium and the ceremony was at a very nice church in the town where the bride grew up. there was a little girl appr 3 yrs old who, after the ceremony started, just started walking up and down the middle aisle and then sat right on the floor! her parents didn't do anything and people who were trying to actually watch the ceremony were pissed!
SCREW THAT!
we threw a retirement party for my mom several yrs ago and she had ONE request. NO KIDS! done deal!
 

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Originally Posted by ter1413
fukk what people say! i travelled to a destination wedding in belgium and the ceremony was at a very nice church in the town where the bride grew up. there was a little girl appr 3 yrs old who, after the ceremony started, just started walking up and down the middle aisle and then sat right on the floor! her parents didn't do anything and people who were trying to actually watch the ceremony were pissed!
SCREW THAT!
we threw a retirement party for my mom several yrs ago and she had ONE request. NO KIDS! done deal!


Yeah, I'm doing it.....
 

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Originally Posted by jgold47
Yeah, I'm doing it.....

pls do! the thing is that too many parents think that their kids acting out at these types of events is "cute!" it isn't! get a sitter or stay home!
 

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So....are you inviting any of the members?????

I mean lets be honest now, we are the people that relate to you the most, practically we are family.
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Originally Posted by jgold47
hmm.. we were told by several people that this was offensive....I really wanted it to say that on the enclosure for the website, but I was told it pisses people off. That said, we are trending a 95% response which means we are screwed if that keeps up (its only been a week + that the invites have gone out). I am going to add that to the RSVP page, and if anyone doesnt like it, tough.... Its my wedding and the one day I get to act like a chick and get away with it(unlike everyother day it happens)

**** them. Who is paying for the wedding? However, I went to a wedding for a good friend a few months back. There were kids from 2 to 15 years old there. They were very well behaved and were fun [enough] to be around (though I couldn't play grab ass with any of the homely looking bridesmaids).
 

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