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http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034/ref=la_B000AP9HSG_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1384002577&sr=1-1

I feel like some people could benefit from reading this book. There's a chapter on how to critique without sounding like a cunt.

Is there a chapter on responding to constructive criticism with arrogance and defensiveness? I generally am quite welcoming, kind and much more constructive to the newbies than most people here. But some people just cannot be helped. And then it is fun to take pot-shots.

I think a great comparison here could be the relatively new Kai, who is also an attorney. He clearly spends a great deal of money on and pays a lot of attention to his wardrobe. And he has needed some refinement, and that is why he posts on here. And he has taken people's advice and critique with a great deal of grace and improved, and that is what this board should be used for.
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As a recent newb, I have to disagree with the fact that people here are snobs. When they give feedback it is mostly constructive and not offensive or derogatory. I have survived WAYWRN for about 6 months and counting and I have to say these people here are helpful, not snobs (well maybe some). When you post a pic here you are being critiqued and people's intentions (for the most part) are to help.

We have had (and lost due to ridiculous nit-picking) some of the best-dressed men in America have stupid, obsessive comments made on this board about their suits that were fitted to them by renowned master tailors. "Oh, it really needs another eighth of an inch waist suppression...I think the back of the jacket really needs to be letting one more centimeter of the shirt showing..." And this guy thinks he can post a pic of a suit that makes him look like a scarecrow outfitted by Goodwill and we should all throw roses at him and say that he is well-dressed? And mind you, this is not some college kid trying for a budget suit to go to a semi-formal, this is a practicing attorney making a court appearance.
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gmledbet: nice.
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Originally Posted by sansimeon View Post
 

 

New trousers with double pleats and 9" leg opening. Might get used to the fullness, but right now it feels like I borrowed them from my grampa. :) 

You inspire me to wear a few of the pleated trousers I intended sale.  Nice look.

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Originally Posted by mimo View Post

Stax, be cool and listen to Rudals-Noodles.  This thread is the most brutal of them all, and getting upset about it isn't going to help.  A lot of members are very blunt - especially here - and some are downright and deliberately rude.  It doesn't matter.  It's the internet, it's not real.  We all know that the rudest ones have acne and live in their mothers' basements.  That's just how forums work.

Take a deep breath, and realise none of this is personal - even when it is.  It's just a mixture of snap observations and languid abuse by strangers who don't really know or care who you are.  And that's OK.  Fasten the correct button on your jacket, post another pic (include shoes) and let's start again.  Everything will be fine, as long as you never, ever get upset.  Promise.

Wise contribution. Correct approach.
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For example, Mimo once made fun of Rudals too hard. So Rudals and I ate his dog. Turns out, Mimo never had a dog. Whose dog did we eat?

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Try of a low contrast outfit:

 

 

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I personally don't think Mr. Daniels initial critique was rude. His comments thereafter were response to Stan's overdefensive comments.
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^^ My view also. There are a few who like to troll the sensitive (or try to make them sensitive by doing so!), but I've never noticed Mr D's being one of them.  

 

There is no point having an allergic reaction to criticism, whether or not you think it's fair.  Keep posting, take in what makes sense to you, ignore what doesn't.  Eventually even this place will see normal.

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Originally Posted by Claghorn View Post
 

For example, Mimo once made fun of Rudals too hard. So Rudals and I ate his dog. Turns out, Mimo never had a dog. Whose dog did we eat?

:rotflmao: 

That's a good one Clag. Maybe instead of drinks we should go for Ž≥īžč†ŪÉē. (Actually, that's gross, never mind)¬†

 

I remember the time when I had a freaking melt down when I first arrived here. But I think I always had the willingness to take the feedbacks and improve upon them. So I decided to stick around and keep on learning. Nowadays, I rarely get feedbacks but I've learned to gauge what people think mostly on thumbs ups even though it may not be exact. So just be glad that you're getting feedbacks and hopefully you have the balls to bite the bullet and listen to them even if it hurts sometimes. (What the heck am I doing? Writing a journal here?!)

:fu: 

 

Also, I think I should just change my name to NOODLES for MIMO's sake.

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Originally Posted by gmledbet View Post
 

AppleMark

 

Sir, you may want to stop taking pictures at this spot. There's no sunlight. I think it will be helpful for all parties if you took your pictures in a brighter spot. Now...I need to learn how to take photos of my own LOL. Good luck.:)

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Originally Posted by gmledbet View Post


That is a handsome tie, I must seek one out for myself.

J
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Originally Posted by J011yroger View Post

I know it's tough because the pictures are so crappy, but I'm looking for a bit of feedback or other ideas on this. Worn out to a Tuscan restaurant for dinner with the fellas.
 

 

I think the problem here is that your velvet blazer is the "statement" piece. The tie should compliment that, not try to compete with it. I like your idea of a forest green tie, but I think  a grenadine might be too formal for the rest of your outfit. Perhaps a knit? That is usually my go to when I can't figure out what tie to wear. Not sure if it would work with the brown striped shirt, but a chocolate brown jacket and a black knit is a nice combo in certain situations.

 

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Very nice, especially the jacket, tie and shoes.

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Originally Posted by MrDaniels View Post

And mind you, this is not some college kid trying for a budget suit to go to a semi-formal, this is a practicing attorney making a court appearance.
 

Stax ‚ÄĒ¬† first off, congrats on passing the bar and your swearing in. ¬†MrD, he's not making an actual court appearance for a client ‚ÄĒ¬†he's being sworn in to become¬†a practicing attorney. ¬†So, not far off from¬†"some college kid" at present. ¬†That said...

 

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I'd forgotten why I stopped posting in this thread. Thanks for reminding me.
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Originally Posted by tattoodobem View Post
 

I agree. Guys here are many times a bit harsh on the new guys. it isn't easy to come here and expose yourself.
Even if people want a judgement i don't think they understand how harsh it can be. And it's not easy getting yourself fancy, maybe spending a lot of money just to know that you are really off.

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Originally Posted by staxringold View Post

You're right, what kind of forum seeks out new members. The healthy approach is outsiders be damned.
 

Stax ‚ÄĒ¬†you're not new here. ¬†In fact, you have been posting in this thread for more than a year. ¬†Your post italicized above suggests that you've received negative feedback here in that time¬†and¬†yet you continue to post fits worthy of negative feedback. ¬†We aren't talking about mismatching your tie width to your lapel,¬†your choice of color palette, or how inexpensive versus expensive your garments are. ¬†Rather, your fit demonstrates a fundamental lack of understanding of how your clothes should fit you and how you are presenting yourself. ¬†Thus, while the fit you posted is certainly exceptionally far off, the real rub for me is that you either haven't taken the time to go through the entire thread here (or the many others here on StyFo) and learn from it, or you have simply disregarded the now 4,273 pages of advice and¬†how to apply that advice to one's particular situation and physique. ¬†That is, at best, annoying to those of us here who do take the time to provide measured and calculated feedback to members new and old.¬†

 

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Originally Posted by staxringold View Post

It was literally directly, freshly, off the hangar from the tailor's. So i guess nothing will fit properly.

 

You don't know how your garments should fit. ¬†Your tailor¬†is irrelevant in this particular conversation¬†‚ÄĒ¬†your tailor didn't purchase that suit for you and, in many respects, can only do so much with the garments and client input¬†he/she is given. ¬†You are SoL until¬†you¬†learn how your clothing should fit you and until that time¬†you¬†will¬†continue to receive pretty negative feedback or people will start ignoring you altogether. ¬†Take the time for your due diligence here, learn, and then post¬†using what you've learned. ¬†The point is ‚ÄĒ like even many seasoned, well tailored members here from time to time ‚ÄĒ¬†you can and should¬†do better.

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