that was a classic.
smart mr. Crust, very smart. i'll leave the hat alone
stitchy - there's two points in what you posted that deserve to be separated out, rather than conflated together:
1) the tone of feedback: personally, I try to keep things generally nice & pleasant in tone, largely because I don't take much to heart and therefore don't really have any motivation to be blunt. You called my feedback "even keeled", which I appreciate. I don't really see the point of phrasing things harshly but equally, don't find much reason to take harsh feedback to heart either. We each vary on how we deal with this kind of thing though. To be honest, I think abut 80%-90% of the negative feedback posted on SF is pretty well-meaning, even if occasionally phrased brusquely. Don't really know what to say about this point really; people with different interpersonal strengths & weaknesses and that's reflected in how they give feedback. I actually don't think harshly-phrased feedback encourages change any more than evenly-phrased feedback (probably the opposite effect happens, as hackles will rise), but a subset will always believe that "bluntness equals honesty equals effective encouragement to change" and act accordingly. There was a great letter from Gene Wilder re: his Willy Wonka costume to the designer reposted in a thread somewhere on the board recently which IMO was the perfect way of giving good, precise feedback that the reader would pay attention to. It was a delightful, charming letter to read, yet nailed exactly what he liked and did not like. Anyway, overall, my thoughts on this point are... *shrug* :)
2) accurate feedback, the applicability of which is limited by one's current wardrobe: on this point, I think you miss the mark a bit. For sure, a lot of feedback isn't directly applicable because of a lack of having the specific suggested item in your wardrobe, or because you happen to just plain disagree. But when you get this kind of feedback, it's worth thinking about what motivated the comment, rather than the comment itself. For example, I suggested more contrast between jacket & trousers. I might be wrong about that. Regardless, whether you happen to have a more contrasting pair of brown trousers to have used instead isn't really the point; it's more about the principle of having a good contrast between trousers & jacket, and then deciding whether that's a principle you want to deploy in future. Maybe that would mean not wearing that particular combination again, rather than trying to keep "forcing" a combination simply because you want to wear a pair of brown trousers with that jacket and only have that shade at present. At the very least, it can act as a prompt to reflect on the reason you disagree. For example, everyone tells me my jackets are too long, but I think my body's proportions look (even) weird(er) with a shorter jacket. I might still be wrong, but at least it made me think about a reason for disagreeing.
The other thing is, all of us who post outfits should be prepared to take the rough with the smooth, or we shouldn't be posting the pics. Posting on SF is all just entertainment really. Maybe infotainment on rare occasions. Point being, if it's not fun any more, it's not worth doing. That's always been my attitude to posting pics; I still feel I get something out of it. Judging by the way your fits have progressed, I think you're probably getting something out of it too, on some level. Besides, you can always console yourself that no matter what flak you feel you've had for your fits, you can guarantee that someone else out there somewhere has had much more personal abuse directed at them for their clothes, including considerably more eminent than you or I SF figures of ages past and present. ;)