I think there's probably some grain of truth to many of these assertions, but they're sunk by some real clunkers:
Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they're not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don't think their genes are good enough, so they won't misbehave.
Throw in some sciency words to make your shit sound legitimate! It would have been enough just to say that women pursue men who are already in demand.
Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? I'm sure there are a few, but they wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot".
This seems to assume the stereotype that all nice guys look like Conne and all bad boys are mysterious brooding studly Taguty adonises. Wouldn't it be enough just to say that the guys who can afford to get away with acting like assholes... do?
Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category.
Really!?! I know almost nobody who falls into the stereotype of either.
Notice I said "stereotype" and not "archetype". The more people try to qualify this distinction of nice guys and bad boys, the more I'm convinced there's absolutely nothing substantive at the base of it.
It's useful, I suppose, for "dating coaches", "relationship experts" and other charlatans who need to make themselves seem useful.http://www.yourtango.com/experts/25485
Lucia is a dating/relationship expert specializing in Cougar relationships.
She is the author of, Lucia's Lessons of Love, a syndicated columnist, keynote speaker and host of The Art of Love on L.A.Talk Radio.
Lucia has been on over 100 TV and radio shows including Dr. Phil, The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, 60 Minutes Australia, The CBS Early Show, Fox Sports Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio.
I doubt a "dating/relationship expert specializing in Cougar relationships" would have much to say that would be material to my situation, the situations of those in my peer group, or those of most people reading this. Her teachings obviously have to be watered-down enough as not to jar the middle-of-the-road sensibilities of the viewerships of Dr. Phil and the Tyra Banks show, so she just repackages lessons gleaned from Hollywood movies as novel insights.